5 year old teenager

[MerryMegandSnowySoph]

DD1 aged 4.11 years, When ever she doesn't get her own way she comes out with things lke "mummy you don't care about me" and she even started saying "when I'm five I'm running away" I must admit it makes me chuckle sometimes regarding the running away as she reminds me of me but when I was 14 .

Does anyone elses 5 year old dd say such things? I know she is trying to manipulate but all I keep thinking is God help me when she is a teenager or maybe she will be an angel when she does get to the teenage years as she will have got it out of her system ??

Typical girl thing IME. Girls tend to go for emotional blackmail stuff. Have no idea what will happen when she hits the teens, am yet to get there yet!!!! I am holding my breath and bracing myself!!

When ds was 5 he kicked off a row about something fairly minor (my refusal to provide crisps for packed lunches, probably), which ended with him saying, "You've ruined my life".

DS2 (aged four and a bit) flounces off in a huff every so often declaring "Mummy, I don't love you any more!". Then is overcome with emotion and flings himself on me, sobbing hysterically: "I - didn't - mean - it!"

My nephew, aged 4.5 recently announced to dsis: "I am going to run away from you, because you are a nuisance."

frogs bless him. It just makes me larf and sad at the same time, at how grown up some children are these days so early.

once when I was in tescos and she was trying to take sweets from the counter, after me growling under my breath "will you stop that please" DD sighed and said " your not very good at this are you mummy" basically saying I'm no good shopping with children hehehehehe I was laughing all day.

Why have children changed so much over the years do we think?

DD2 is no way like this she's still quite babyish and 3 years old.

our dd 4 and half has started to talk about her parents in her "first life" she said they used to feed her choclates and crisps and that we are much better becoz we give her good food..... but when she gets a strop she says "i wish i was with my 1st family"??????

Used to worry us the whole before life bit but we do laugh

My dd has just turned 4 going on 14!
What worries me most is how she prances through the living room in her dress up barbie sandals, pink trousers and top and little pink bag. The way she wiggles her bum etc. is a tad unnerving and she for sure hasn't seen me do that! I'm more the jeans/t-shirt/very comfy shoes type!

And the attitude!

"you've made this the worst day ever" slams door
I asked to to eat her veg!

TBH, I think it's very typical of this age. DD goes in phases. Recently, it was "I wish X (good pal of mine) was my mummy instead of you". It does hurt when they say these things - but, after a bit, I'm usually able to step back, gain a bit of perspective, and laugh about it.

I wonder if part of their "adult" way of expressing themselves is that generally we speak to our children as equals, and don't engage in the "baby talk" that used to be common. We often give reasons for what we ask/do, and rarely if ever, utter the "because I said so" not-really-an-explanation phrase that often came out of my mum's mouth. Could that be one of the reasons they seem so verbally/emotionally mature?

Dingdong... LOL but that is how they see things nowadays isn't it

Earlybird... you might be on to something there! I never got all the elaborate explanations I am giving dd from my parents... they were also part of the 'because I said so/told you to ...' generation. Does that mean we are all emotionally crippled? surely not

People shouldn't bother saying "well wait until they are teenagers" in conversation regarding little ones behaviour and attitude, it should be "wait until they get to five, thats when you will see the them stropping around and saying lifes not fair"

Gosh we used to be able to blame hormones lol What now?

DD2 has just stapped her feet and said "You are the worst mummy ever. I hate you." and walked out of room and slammed the door. All because I said "no' to her having some crisps!!

Not just me then? DS says he is off to find a new family and that he hates me (such crimes as asking him to tidy his room). All part of being a Mother I think. And count yoursel;ves lucky.... I have two in that age bracket (4.11 and 6) and they both do it. Ho hum.

(I just Well I love you darling but I respect the way you feel in a rather absent sort of way- DH phsl)

i have a 6yr old dd and she is exactly like you describe it used to get to me but now i find it hard not to laugh i do think its because i have always spoken to her on a grown up level i just never saw the point of talking to her in a baby way and then having to explain everything again in a grown up way later on if that makes sense - i think i probably did talk "baby" to her when she was under 2 but not since then. Also i think they get a lot of it from friends at school, dd was an angel until she went to school she wouldnt have thought to cheek me the way she does now.

Ds is 2 and is apparently going to live with Santa as Santa has his nappies and will let him walk around with poo on his bottom.