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Perempuan · 19/07/2001 08:15

Had anyone experienced this,my 3yrs 7months sons,cry in his sleep,I try to calm him down thinking he having a bad dream. he open his eyes still crying,with tears rolling down,so I know he is not pretending,saying his knee hurt.I know he had not have a fall, he was allright b4 I put him to bed.This waking up and crying happened on and off.I and my son sleep on diffrent beds in the same room.I am a single mother.I am clueless about this problem,& it getting me worry.please help someone out there,anyone.

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Tigermoth · 19/07/2001 12:16

Growing pains, perhaps, Perempuan?

My older son has also woken up in tears and then told us he had pains in his legs. He also complains of growing pains sometimes just before before he goes to sleep. Bad timing, because it looks like a procrastination tactic. The only solution I've found is to rub his shins and give lots of sympathy and sometimes a cuddle in our bed. The rubbing only makes the pain go away while you are doing it. As soon as you stop, it starts again, but usually some leg-rubbing and cuddling soothes him enough to suffer it and go back to sleep.

I don't know the medical explanation for 'growing pains' , or if, as with your son, you can get them in the knee. But I do know they definitely exist. I had them myself as a child. The pain is like a sharp headache - in my case, and my sons - in the shins. My husband didn't have growing pains as a child and took lots of convincing that our son wasn't just attention seeking.

Sorry I can't offer any solutions as such. We tried Calpol a few times, but that didn't really do the trick.

Anyone else know more about this?

Joe · 19/07/2001 12:41

Try a massage before he goes to bed that might relax it all down. I had alot of trouble with my right knee and this was put down to growing pains for years until one doctor believed me it wasnt and I had damaged my cartlidge. Im not saying this is what your son has done but they do get up to all sorts and he could have easly pulled something. I went through alot of pain because the doctors kept saying it was growing pains, might be worth a trip to the docs just for a look.

Candy · 19/07/2001 17:27

Aromatherapists recommend massage with peppermint or lavender oil - lavender can be used neat but you need to dilute peppermint in a base oil. try about 5 drops in a couple of tablespoons of oil.

Twinsmum · 19/07/2001 18:17

I think I'd get the doctor to have a quick look. I had growing pains for years which were very painful but they were at the tops of my thighs. Sorry - dont know if they affect knees, but he may have pulled something (?)

Bron · 20/07/2001 09:46

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Tigermoth · 20/07/2001 09:50

Bron, Please I must ask this. Your husbad was 5 foot at three years old??? Have I read this incorrectly? If this is true, I would think your husband wouldn't need to be convinced of anything out of the ordinary!

Copper · 21/07/2001 09:06

My son used to wake up crying in pain from cramp. He hasn't done it for some time. We used calpol and rubbing, but we couldn't find anything to prevent it

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Perempuan · 23/07/2001 02:49

Thankyou everyone especially Tigermoth,my son have stop this wakeup-crying habit with no help from me,strange,I think there is such things as growing pain.I know it will happend again in the future .At lease this time I know what going on.

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Annalla · 13/10/2001 14:10

My 7 year old son has misbehaved in school since he started. He likes to draw attention to himself which distracts the class. He was diagnosed with adhd in January and has been on ritilin. Recently the school feel he does not have an attention problem and that the ritilin has never worked (nice of them to tell me). He manages to do his work when placed in another classroom (not his own class). When I ask him about his behaviour he says 'I just want everyone to look at me.' Please please please any suggestions. I am at my wits end!!!!

Copper · 13/10/2001 14:42

Annalla
there is another thread on adhd - it might have something to help you. Presumably it was diagnosed by a doctor rather than the school - how can the school say what it is or isn't? Is your son under the care of a psychologist? Are they in contact with the school? The schoolshould have access to an educational psychologist as well.

If he loves attention, why not send him to one of these stage school sessions you see advertised all over the place - an hour for singing, an hour for dancing, an hour for acting etc. Maybe he would respond well to actually getting attention - and realise that it has to come in a structure. Best of luck

Annalla · 13/10/2001 15:14

To Copper
Thanks for replying. The specialist has not been in contact with the school, but hopes to. The Educational Psychologist thinks he also has an emotional disorder. I am at present trying to organise a meeting for them and me to meet. It is funny you should suggest drama, that's exactly what I had in mind. By coincidence, his aunty is an actress.

Rhiannon · 13/10/2001 21:27

Annalla, mine at 6.5 years is very much the same. He hasn't been diagnosed with anything but is very easily distracted in class, shouts out, is rude etc etc. He seems to crave the attention he gets. The only punishment which has any effect on him is going to bed without any dinner when he gets home from school. This may seem harsh and any other suggestions would be appreciated. There is only so much banning of TV/Gameboy and smacking you can do.

Robinw · 14/10/2001 06:04

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Nai · 19/10/2001 18:25

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Nai · 01/11/2001 09:22

my 10 yr old boy is so good he helps me so much and his best friend sacha [ anallas child] is also very good but my daughters a nutter allright i never give her anything if shes naughty i slap her round the head and send her to bed with no toilet no drink and no breakfast she's a fat cow!!!!!!

Scummymummy · 01/11/2001 10:41

Are you for real, Nai?

Joe1 · 01/11/2001 11:03

What Nai

Tigermoth · 01/11/2001 11:59

I've just done a search Nai, and it looks like this is your first message. What bought you to mumsnet?

Lizzer · 01/11/2001 12:26

I was wondering the same thing myself Tigermoth, perhaps looking for a "things to do when you're a bored ten year old boy" thread possibly (I hope it's that explanation anyway)??

Nai · 01/11/2001 12:45

it was my imaginary friend

Nai · 01/11/2001 12:47

i am an robot this was sent by a chipaphorical error !!!!!!!! i am the robot and i am di ing help aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Scummymummy · 01/11/2001 12:54

It looks like the end is Nai...

Marina · 01/11/2001 13:45

So Nai's not one of your little fellows then Scummymummy?

Nai · 01/11/2001 17:54

I am sorry about recent messages. They are not from me. My clever 10 year old son worked out my password and thought it would be funny to do this. (Two weeks of half term). Going back on Monday hooray. Have you any suggestions as a punishment? Anyone please.

Nai · 01/11/2001 22:25

i love u guys are u for real i am baby come for a hug GROUP HUG THANK I HAVE FIVE MORE DEEDS TO GO BEFORE I TURN INTO A REAL PERSON!!!!!!