OK here goes, let's see everyone tell me off... but I'm still interested to see what the reaction is..
DD has never wet her bed. She potty trained fairly late, and had a little potty in her room for awhile when night training. But this isn't about bed wetting.
DD admitted that she deliberately wet her bed because she was afraid to come out of her room to use the toilet. She had a babysitter. This babysitter is a good friend who I have known for about 3 years. She also has childminding qualifications and an 11 year old son of her own. I would not leave my child with someone I do not trust myself.
I don't think the issue is even the babysitter. DD does not like adults. I can count on one hand the adults she will talk to. And 3 of them live in other countries; those 3 are friends that dote on her when they visit. DD has ONE babysitter she loves (because they are both Dr Who fans). The other babysitter, from last night, DD has been round her flat, but she doesn't know her as well. But still. I feel awful that DD was so upset she deliberately wet her bed. She even had dry pyjamas; she pulled them down and wet her mattress and then changed the sheets herself.
The babysitter (I phoned her today about how to dry the foam mattress) said that I need to work on DD overcoming her shyness. DD does not talk to teachers or TAs at school, but she has friends amongst the pupils her own age. She just has this massive shyness about adults. She won't even go into Sunday school class without me, because she doesn't want to have to tell the teacher her name (they have to do names each time, because most people only go about once a month.)
My feeling is not to get that babysitter again, that if DD's favourite babysitter is not available, then don't go out. But that is like giving in to her fussy eating, and letting her have only what she wants, to avoid DD having discomfort...?