hi
we have started to try to get some help for our DS nearly 28 months as his language is severely delayed. only 3 -4 real words so far and the rest just babble. He understands a lot of what we tell/ask him and responds accordingly. he is a bright boy with a big character.
We had a visit from a supposed specialised speech development health visitor today whom came last week as well just as an introduction. OH was at home for this visit - and he just couldnt believe how stony faced and serious she was around DS and whilst trying to get him to play or engage with her. She was giving off no warmth or sense of fun - surely you need to be able to do this to work with toddlers/young children?
OH said 'you must see children like DS all the time' and her response with no smile was 'no, DS is quite unique'.
OH was left with a really sour taste about the whole visit and that her manner suggested that we were to blame for his language delay- she is set to come for the next six weeks. Not sure what to do - I will be there next week so might see how that goes - but if I try to call a stop to the visits do they have the power to insist on them?
The original HV we saw for his 2 year update was lovely, but the new one is so measured and cool its hard to engage etc.
Is there method to guilt the parents so much that they spend every single waking moment hot housing their child?
For the record, we talk to DS a lot, tell him simply what he is doing, love him ..... don't leave him fending for himself foraging in dustbins etc
We have another appt for SALT on Friday but not sure how this differs from the health visitor assessment and visits.
Any advice/anyone been through this?