7yo dd crying when I leave hosue in evening - anyone else???

[CocktailQueen]

I don't go out THAT much, but recently my dd has started to be very upset when I do - surely a 7yo crying when mummy has to go out after she's in bed is unusual?? I was only going to the PTA this evening, FFS! Not out clubbing.... She is anxious generally and she doesn't like being by herself when she's in bed. Have talked about it and read a boko about being anxious together and she has strategies to help her stop worrying but when she's tired she forgets to do them. Anyway - anyone else'ss dd that age get upset when a parent goes out? Or just me??

I found that 6 yrs was generally the time to get like that. I used to say that I took them around to see their friends and did things with them and it was my time and I wanted to see my friends. They generally saw that it wasn't fair to try and stop me.

Dd had to be physically unwrapped from my leg at that age. She has got over it since.

My 6yo is doing this. I go to choir every Monday night. Every Monday we have the same conversation. "I don't want you to go. Why do you have to go?"

Answer: Because it's fun and Mummy has a life of her own. Maybe some day she'll get it.

DS1 went through a similar phase at that age when I taught evening classes which once even resulted in DH phoning me in absolute desperation during a class so that I could reassure him.

He's still a bit unsettled when I go out but he is very anxious and a fretter. He was very upset on the first night away with my parents recently and he's 9 now! DS2 (7) is always fine.

I have observed from mine, and from friends, that around 6 yrs is the age they don't like it-you just have to remain calm and keep going. It is a phase.

thanks all