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Sleepovers - what age?

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LoveMyGirls · 16/12/2005 09:52

my dd (6) is asking for her friends to stay over i have said no, am i evil? i have a 11 week old baby so obv im up in the night and when she sleeps through the night i will be moving her into dd1's room so wouldnt want dd1 or her friend waking baby up so i said she will have to wait until she has her own room when we get a bigger house (probably in 2 years)

i didnt start having friends stay over until i was at high school i didnt even ask, i would have been about 13 the first time.

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swedishmum · 16/12/2005 09:57

I agree with you. You'll have a horrible time right now and 6 is pretty young anyway. Mine were probably about 8 or 9. Still hate thhem myself. Too much responsibility with a toddler.

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LoveMyGirls · 16/12/2005 10:03

Kids these days seem to be growing up so quickly is it because we let them? dd1 is like a mini teenagers throwing a strop if she doesnt get her own way and i am by no means a pushover but she storms off to her room and also has an attitude this has been since she started school all the other kids seem to be the same even on tv i was watching house of the tiny tearaways and kia the 6 year old was treating her mum in much the same way (apart from my dd doesnt bite kick and pinch)

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jac34 · 16/12/2005 10:03

DH and I thought we were about 12 or 13 when we had sleep overs but our Dtwins(7yo), had their first one a few weeks ago.
The other parents who only have one child,had them to stay first(brave people), then we had their child last Saturday night.
Our DS's share a room even though we have a spare, and all three boys slept in one room. They were very good concidering how excited they all were,we would proberbly do it again, but it is very exhausting looking after 3,excited,7yo boys for 24hours.
Therefore, since you have a young baby it might be alot of work, especially since you may not be able to carry it on when the baby goes into DD1's room, or on the other hand perhaps they could all sleep in the lounge together in sleeping bags.

crunchie · 16/12/2005 10:12

We've done this with my best friends who's dds are 6 mine are 4 and 6. I have had the others to stay and it has always been great. OK there is always a row about who is sleeping where, but it is fine.

I gues my dd's have been on a sleepover once (simply because it is less fair foisting 2 on someone) and we have had kids to stay 4 or 5 times.

On new years eve we have a party and have 6 kids (inc mine) who will stay if they want. Basically the parents can take them home when they leave (2am or whatever) or leave them and pick them up in the morning. My kids know where food is kept and how to turn teh TV on so it should be ok!!

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LoveMyGirls · 16/12/2005 10:20

if they did stay (which is not happening for a long while) i dont think i could put them in the living room as we have a very small house so we'd have either stay in the living room n keep them awake or go in our room and risk keeping baby awake - not fair on us really i think ill just wait until we have a bigger house.

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TheFish · 16/12/2005 10:22

never
have told mine they get their bothers to sleep over with every night

batters · 16/12/2005 10:48

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mumofthreebeauties · 16/12/2005 14:43

With DD her first sleepover (apart from odd nights at her cousins) was for her 8th birthday when she had a couple of friends round.

Not a regular occurrence. She is off to another next week at a friends house.

beejay · 16/12/2005 15:09

My dd has regularly stays over with her friends and has done since she was about 4 and half, but she is an only child too...
I do find it exhausting when i have to return the favour-- but it is bliss being able to go out without worrying about babysitters etc AND getting a sunday morning lie-in....

nikkie · 16/12/2005 19:48

A small group of dd1s friends have sleepovers and have since they were 4 bugt my dd hasn't or most of her friends.TBH I find it hard enough to fit in play 'dates' and also my 2 go to bed really early and others don't, I wouldn't really be happy before they are 7/8 unless it was someone I am good friends with

roisin · 16/12/2005 19:55

We have the space, but so far have not felt the need

My boys are 6 and 8, and seem to need more sleep than most of their peers, so I just can't see a sleepover working without them ending up hysterically tired and grumpy and miserable!

Mosschops30 · 16/12/2005 20:04

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goldenoldie · 16/12/2005 21:03

Agree that 8 or 9 is sensible - that's when I started with my ds. Anything before that - unless family, would have been too much aggro.

SNOWaMANda · 17/12/2005 13:03

My dd is 6 and she's had sleepovers at her friend's house on 2 or 3 occasions. She was there last night. My dd is a good sleeper and is quite confident so I think that helps in this situation. Plus, the mum of her friend is lovely and I have every faith in her to tell them to get to sleep if they're up too late!!

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