I have posted on here before but quite a while back about my very dominant DD2 who has been biting/hitting/pushing etc since about 15 months. She has a passive 5yr old sister who she has in tears on a fairly regular basis. We stopped going to any toddler type things a long time ago as I had to hover so much over her that it became very stressful.
She is with a childminder 3 days a week and is consistently told by CM and us that we don't do these things, use time out/naughty step, fuss of other child, apologise profusely myself, get her to say sorry etc etc. She knows she isn't meant too (and will talk about what she has done after the event) but we can't seem to stop it. She has just started with a new CM 2 of the 3 days and whilst an angel for the first half of the day, this she has been using toys to hit and then bit (thankfully very lightly) the CMs DD (same age) on the face this afternoon. Sharing is a big issue at them moment, but it isnt the sole cause. She starts preschool in January and I am dreading it as can see her being labelled the nasty child (she is a very fun, full on toddler with a great sense of humour when not misbehaving!).
Has anyone dealt with this degree of this problem and at what age did it stop and did you come up with something that actually helped? The situation is obviously extremely embarrassing and, on a practical level, we are going to have problems if we lose childcare (CM has been very nice about it today but its only the first day).
thanks in desperation!