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Overweight 12 year Old Daughter

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KAJL · 06/09/2011 09:06

Hi, my daughter is 12 1/2 years old. She is overweight, not sure what she weighs as I don't want make an issue of it, however she is becoming evermore aware of it and has started calling herself fat. She is carrying this weight around her midriff and has a protruding tummy and fatty ?folds? on her back. She has a gorgeous pair of legs and her upper body is ?sturdy? but not big.

She is in a swimming club and they train them hard for 3 hours per week and she also does the normal 2 PE sessions at school per week, so she certainly is no couch potato! However she loves her food and eats like a horse! I cook properly every evening and she will eat fruit and veg with no problem. All I can think of to do is make sure that there are few biscuits and fatty foods in the house and only cook enough for one sitting with no leftovers for second helpings. She has taken a tuna wrap, 2 apples and some fresh raspberries to school for lunch today.

Yesterday she asked to join weightwatchers!! I said 'absolutely not' and that she just need to keep up with her sport and continue to eat healthily.

I have a friend who?s daughter started worrying about her weight around this age and she is now 18 and anorexic. Obviously this is a terrifying prospect.

She hasn?t started her period yet and I wonder if that might help rid her of this, what I hope is just, ?puppy fat??

Any advice would greatly appreciated along with anyone who has gone/is going through a similar thing.

Thanks so much!

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KAJL · 08/09/2011 11:49

Hi ?talkingtomyself? - Yes I do think a lot of it is portion size and Im going to try my best and only cook enough with no second helpings available. It?s so hard though as I have a younger boy who isn?t terribly interested in eating as he?d much rather be off with his friends or playing Lego. Consequently, when he eats a good meal without trying to get down from the table half way through, we?re congratulating him for eating so well and are amazed if he ever asks for seconds! Arghh!

I had a word with my doctor yesterday and she said that once she starts her period she?ll have a big growth spurt which may help solve the problem. Fingers crossed that this, and a bit of quiet intervention on my part, will iron out the issue!

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styler67 · 27/04/2015 13:36

KAJL just wondering how your daughter's now fairing on the weight front. My daughter is the same age as yours when you asked your question and she is keen on exercise and food too. What did you find worked well for you/her in the end?

sleepwhenidie · 27/04/2015 13:46

Please stuck with your decision on WW and don't get her into SW, dieting, or getting into dieting mentality at her age is usually a recipe for disaster (ie a lifetime of dieting repeatedly). You are being perfectly sensible with that and your decision re quantities of food available at meal times and not having junk in the house. What is a typical home cooked meal?

user1480031178 · 04/11/2017 23:18

Could she be going to the tuck shop on the way to and back from school getting sweets - puddings at school

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