6 year old with attitude!

[LoveMyGirls]

I know i cant be the only one i would never in a million years have spoken to my mother the way my dd speaks to me i know it must be my fault somewhere along the way after all she learns her behaviour from me and if i let her get away with it then its my fault isnt it?

today was the last straw, everyday i say please don't speak to me like that and today was no exception we were in asda and i was looking at treats for after dinner dd was being her usual stroppy self and was demanding i buy what she wanted i had said no and she started going off on one so i said right we'll leave it lets go so she ran off and i started walking towards the checkout, she followed me like i knew she would anyway we get home and she's still talking to me like crap, so that was it i put her in time out and she carried on so i warned her if she didnt stop i would put her advent calendar in the bin (very harsh looking back) i didnt actually do it i put in the cupboard but really what do you do when your dd doesnt respect you?

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No advice I'm afraid but I'm sure someone will be along soon who can help

x

i use time out. it does work, you just have to keep going. it might take some time if she is set in her ways! mine also miss out on whatever they want if they dont ask nicely 1st time, no second chances (well thats not entirely true, they usually get a 2nd chance, just not if they are going through a patch of being cheeky)

Oh my Goodness! How timely... I am having a really rough week with DD (also 6). She just does not seem to understand that there is a difference between adults (to whom she should listen) and herself. We have had a few bad moments in public places like you have described and I am at wits end! My DH is working away from home so I am on my own at the moment so leaving her at home is not a viable option and I am tired of having to leave 1/2 way through a shop or an event wondering if that is secretly what she wants anyhow...

Today at dinner time, I asked her to clear away the colouring supplies from the table so that we could prepare to eat and she flashed back with a stroppy: "NO! I was not the only one colouring and I will not tidy up." I calmly explained that dinner would be served when the table was cleared. She went to get her older brother (8) and by the time they re-appeared in the kitchen, they were shouting at each other about who should do what.

I am not sure that I handled it well but I told them that everytime they shouted at each other (using their voice a weapon) that they would have to place one Christmas gift destined for themselves into the charity box for less fortunate children at our local mall. They were shocked but it just continued and the table was still in no state for a meal 1/2 later. DD started crying about the desperate hunger I was 'forcing' her to endure!?!?!? I don't know what to do with the little madam.

Time outs have had NO effect whatsoever. Until recently, she would head to her room quietly and the re-emerge in the same angry manner that landed her there in the first place. Now she just refuses to go to her room. She just looked at me and asked "Why should I?" the last time I explained that she needed to take 6 minutes to herself.

I am so sorry that I have turned this into more of a rant than a helpful suggestion. I do feel relieved that I am not the only mother having a rottten time with a 6 year old...

I do think that being firm and clear about your expectations is the best approach. If you pick a battle then you must win. If you say that there will be consequences then you must follow through. All the usual ramblings. They seem to work beautifully for DS1 and DS2 at the moment but I have really messed up somewhere with DD....

I hope that tomorrow brings you a better day.

sympathies - I am going through a horrible time with my 6 year old ds doesn't help I am also going through a horrible time with my 2 year old dd.........

Thank God for that I thought it was just me . But I think I have an answer as to why they are being that little bit more annoying its called CHRISTMAS .Truly I can remember this time last year (I bet there are threads saying 5 year old with attitude ) They have so much going on at school christmas cards being handed out , school partys , the anticipation as to what they might get for christmas and thats without some well meaning adult saying " you better be good as santa wont come " And parents at home being stressed as to what to get Aunty Flo for christmas and the food shopping . So to be honest I think they just cant cope with it all and it comes out with them getting all antsy and bulshie or of course they could just be being a little sod . LOL