Help 4 year old driving me INSANE

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Don't think anyone can really help with this one, but I need to vent!!!! my 4 year old has been hard work since the day she was born but recently she seems to have got very argumentitive, rude and very bossy. Have been through alot this year admitidly including moving away from her father and moving in with my partner (who she adores) have just got her to sleep through the night (a true blessing!!) but her behaviour during the day seems to be getting worse, she has so many issues which cause her to break into major tear filled tantrums, including her socks having a seam, her knickers up her bum and her pj's riding up in night , this is to name just a few, feel like I'm going slowly mad am already on prozac and do not feel that I am handling things very well at all. HELP

Ha she started school? I ask because this sounds like my DD the first term at school -tired, emotional....its like walking on eggshells

havent got any ideas just wanted to say hello and rant away My dd is also four and very bossy and thats bad enough.

do you think she is upset when you left her dad? Did she see you two arguing a lot? Genuinley interested as just freshly seperated from my kids dad and feeling very lost.

Can forsee DD having a bit of a 'wobbly' few months ahead of her.

On a sympathetic note, has she just statrted school too? It is so hard when you have a four year old diva ruling the house (or so it seems) but it really may just be a phase??

To answer questions, she has just started half days at nusery amonth ago. No she NEVER saw me and hubby argue, we never did! she doesn't miss him at all but he was never there for her anyway. thanks for responses feeling very low and lonely.

I know my dd can be kind of the same - eg she rrefuses to wear her school skirt it must be a pinafore or she dosn't want her hair in a pony tail or having major tantrums because she can't construct a 'house' out of blankets and not much else!!

I think that if you are feeling generally low and depressed these things can become a big issue because you let them and you are far more irratable than perhaps you should be??.......

Sorry if taht sounds a bit personal

No that's not too personnal, I do have good days and bad I know, but it's not just me other people have commented about her as well

This might sound like a silly question but has she always had a problem with particular types of clothes rubbing against her skin? I only ask because my nearly 3yr-old has extremely sensitive skin and until recently found it almost impossible to wear clothes. I'm just wondering if this aspect of your dd's behaviour has a physical cause rather than just an emotional I-want-my-own-way kind of thing.

not much advice as i am the least patient person. does she have to wear socks? it will look daft and maybe peer pressure will do better than you.

dont put her PJ's on - an adult T-shirt will do.

no solution for the knickers - are undypants better? maybe worth a go.

i get your general gist though - your finding it difficult. and if nothing else this will serve as a bump.

never mind the little things! socks ...bah

Tried all kinds of underwear (even none at all-just complained about that too!) tried no socks, moaned shoes were uncomfortable, tried nighties, t shirts moan sleeves were either too long or too short....arghhhhh. I am not letting her see that this all gets to me so it's not to get a reaction either, this has only been going on for a year, but she has always had a lot of issues and worries, even got my health visitor involved but she was useless.