Routine for very little one

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Sorry if this is the wrong board for this. I'm canvasing for opinions about a night time routine for my DS.

He's only 15 days old but DH is very keen on getting him into a night time routine that I think is a bit too advanced for him. DH would like us to be able to put him down at seven and leave him alone to sleep until his next feed. I would be OK with it if DS regularly slept at seven but he's only small and his internal routines vary a lot. At the moment he's wide awake in the evenings. DH thinks we should leave him to settle himself for 10 to 15 minutes before going to him (it worked for us once when he was obviously over tired). I think he is too young for this. We are not trying anything like controlled crying but I am still worried that we could miss something important. Could just be my pfb anxiety kicking in though.....

My DS has a bedtime of 7.30 - 8 and he's just 8 months so you will find ther's a time to do this. I imagine it does change when they get older though and you might have to enforce it a bit with toddlers or slightly older children.

I think your DH just has to accept that 15 day old babies can't learn anything, he is barely more than a foetus! Some babies aren't even born at 40+15

You can relax and enjoy at least the first 6 months without worrying about routines and bad habits and strict bedtimes. See how you feel about things in a few months.

What the others said! Maybe your DH could read the thread as well as you. Babies fall naturally into their own pattern after a few weeks - in the meantime keep him with you as much as possible. The more physical contact he has with you and the closer he is, the quicker he will get used to the world and the more secure he will be.