dd has turned into a non-sleeping monster

[thecattleareALOHing]

Ok so she's recently sprouted two teeth, and had the dreaded South-East London 48-Hour Vomiting Bug...but her sleep has got worse and worse and worse. She completely freaks out being put in her cot, can't bear to be left alone and is going to sleep later and later - as I type she is still awake and dh is dealing with it as I can't bear to anymore. She is absolutely exhausted.
She is nearly 10months old. She also still wakes at night, though tbh I think the not going to sleep is even worse than the waking at night.
I really don't know what to do. If put her cot, she screams and sobs and tries desperately to get out, sometimes falls asleep in a heap, face pressed against bars, but then wakes and resumes screaming exactly as she left off.
She started off so well too!
Even ds, my nightmare sleeper, was going through by now, but then, he had a dummy which made things much easier.

I can wait until 11months.. but as the saying goes, 'it's the hope I can't stand'.
She just will not go to sleep and I end up staying up until 1am just to get a few moments to myself.

Aloha, poor you

Do you think that it's the separation she is protesting against or is something hurting her (ears being a good candidate)?

My friend's twins have just had the dreaded vomiting bug and she had two very clingy children on her hands when I spoke to her today!

Have you tried standing just behind her and stroking her head for a while. A mini head massage never failed to work with my two?

In fact Calpol followed by a head massage usually worked miracles

Yes, my DD started the separation anxiety thing about then too. The tips I was given (that I used) were to stick to a consistent (thus reassuring) bed time routine, and let her play a bit in her cot during the day with me in the room, and then I used 'pick up put down' at night to get her settled. She got through it in a couple of months, but there were good nights and bad nights along the way - it wasn't a straight line improvement! Looking back, I think teeth were a big factor and so was learning to crawl - she was pretty unsettled at each major milestone.

Keep 'em coming. Desperate and will try anything. Esp as Dh is away tomorrow night. Mind you, when he is away I tend to get them in bed earlier somehow.

She's had baby nurofen btw. Maybe with the bug and the teeth she's got out of the habit of sleeping, though it was going downhill badly even before they happened.

Has she got a favourite cuddly? I think DD attached herself to 'Cat' at around this age (I now have four of 'em, and recycle: one day she'll discover them in the wardrobe and be in therapy for years and years dealing with the trauma)
Anyway...Cat helped a bit, as she did'nt have a dummy either.

Is she 100% better from the teething/tummy bug (poor little thing!) do you think? It's just that if she's still a bit off-colour she may not yet be ready to return to her previous sleep pattern. Istr you saying you'd done CC with your ds - are you up for that, or maybe you feel she's still too young. Sending sleep vibes your way! zzzzzzzzz

It was easier with ds. He had a dummy and he didn't go absolutely ballistic with grief like dd does. DD is compulsively social - she grins at everyone, works really hard to catch people's eye, does lots of waving and talking etc - I think maybe she hates being alone more than ds did too.

I'm trying hard to remember (and probably failing, time for bed) but....I THINK dd dropped a nap around this time, went down to two. If your dd is going to sleep later and later, could over-napping be a possibility? Also, relate to the social dd...mine, too. It felt wrong not to respond to her in some way, so I did do some sitting next to the cot without speaking, as a half-measure. Eventually, we had to wean her off that too - but I never did CC, and she grew out of the anxiety quite fast: she's a great sleeper now.

How's the sleep situation at the moment? Any better?

Amazingly, she's been asleep by 7.45 for three nights running. However on saturday night she did vomit all over me (Little Britain style!) at 1am. But last night she slept 7.45 to 5am which was amazing. It's a work in progress, babies' sleep.

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10 moths you say

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