Would you find it inappropriate for a 5 year old boy to..

[Twiglett]

wrap his arms round your upper thigh and push his hand into your crotch? especially if he's only met you a couple of times but knows your child.

and what would you say?

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Umm... Gerroff? Does sound a tad odd.

Sounds odd to me too - even my own DS1 (who's 5) doesn't do that to me - he knows thats mummy's (or any other female he's hugging) 'private' area and to keep his 'ands off.

ok .. what about if 2 of them do it .. at the same time .. one on each leg .. both children who don't really don't know you that well

thank gawd I wear jeans

You're obviously very attractive.

2 different children .. not brothers .. but friends since birth

OMG - I'd be out the door

aha it's me pheremones

What did you do? Who was he? was his mum there?

i would have said,'what a lovely hug' and pushed him firmly away! (And been a bit embarrassed!)

I think I said 'no thanks' pushed firmly and got embarrassed tbh

but more embarrassed that their mothers did not think it unusual

Werid

My 3 yr old wouldn't do that.

no idea do they have dogs?

Hmm, I'd wonder if they'd done it by accident or on purpose.

I'd certainly remove their hands from the relevant bits, and watch out for any repeats.

It does sound like the sort of "hobby" a child would pick up, knowing it unnerves adults, IYSWIM.

well ds1 has sniffed a friend's crotch, usually he confines himself to shoulders, chests and faces. I was mortified (at the crotch sniffing). Luckily her dd does weird stuff as well- I remember her ripping my socks off me once (you're allowed shoes and socks, or no shoes and socks, but not only shoes or socks), so if he was going to go for crotch sniffing at least it was her (and at least he hasn't done it again). I do forget to look surprised at all the other sniffing though and have to rouse myself when he does it to strangers.

I'd be a litle embarrassed but wouldn't think anything of it. DSs have never done it so wouldn't know not to do it IYSWIM. I'd assume it was just a hug where the hands have ended up somewhere rather inappropriate.

Hmmm... How well do you know the parents Twiglett? I don't want to be alarmist but isn't innapropriate sexual behaviour a sign social workers look out for as a signal for possible abuse?

But if it's just a one off maybe they were just trying their luck

sexualised behaviour is nothing like this. you don't even want to know what sexualised behaviour involves.

I'l take your word for it Baka. Gladly!

no, this isn't sexualised .. its just inappropriate play

Has he maybe seen daddy doing it to mummy?! I'd be very , and would probably be a bit flustered tbh.

My dd (also) five does the wrapping herself around your leg thing (and refusing to let go when I am trying to walk off). She does it to irritate me, but also she loves hugs. I'm not sure what you mean about the crotch, tbh - did he swish his hand between your legs? My dd has doen that once or twice I think, all as part of the same "pay attention to me". Did the mum notice the hand thing? I would be embarrassed if dd did that, but maybe she thought better not to pay attention?

Just to hijack slightly. I would like to know what sexualised behaviour involves if it isnt too graphic for Mumsnet.

There was an incident involving my ds (3.8) and a neighbours son (4.7) I was horrified and told his mother immediately but I still have moments when I wonder about it. It doesnt seem to have affected ds at all but.......mmm....now Im wondering again!

I think sexualised behaviour is when children have adult-like sexual behaviour.