My dd hates her dad!

[Carmenere]

My 21 month old dd has taken a turn against her dad. She rarely lets him hug her and hits him away if he goes near her. She is constantly throwing tantrums around him and it is beginning to hurt his feelings. He knows that this is just a phase but he is still quite upset. I'm getting a bit p!ssed off with being the only one she wants to hang out of too.
We reckon that it's a power thing, that she sees herself in competition with him as boss of the household (). He is the one that is more strict with her.
My question to any of you with experience of this type of behaviour is how long is it likely to last? TIA

My DD did that too! Its horrible. And tiring for the mum too and hurtful to dad. And then she switched the other way! Couldn't get enough of dad and was a right little mare to me! DH thought that was very funny! It is just a phase though. Sorry, can't remember how long it lasted for!

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thanks for responding - it is really tiring, on Sunday when I had a fairly unpleasant hangover she refused to let go of me all day and just screamed if dp went near her. I was nearly in tears by the time she went to bed.

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My DS did exactly the same thing, it is very much an age thing as much as anything else and it will get better. My advice would be for you to try and ignore it, encourage your husband to spend as much time as possible with your DD, go out if you have to, and get DH to do fun things with DD, to encourage her that spending time with daddy is fun. Trust me, it will pass

Carmenere, we have the same with my ds2. It's hell. It started in January and is still going on . It was really bad for about 3 months and now it's just really bad. It is hard work, you have my sympathies, and so does your dh, because it is hard on them. Looking forward to a switch the other way, so I hope Teifi's right.

I'll be keeping an eye on this thread!

My 19mo can be a bit like this sometimes. We found the two of them spending time alone together wtih me out of the way worked. Me and DH have always taken it in turns to do her bath but we started also taking it in turns to get up with her in the morning and that made a huge difference. He also tries to take her out somewhere on his own at the weekend, just the park or shops or something.

We were away on holiday last week, leaving dd with my mum and dad. Since we got back dd has been v clingy with me. This morning dh had to take her to nursery and pick her up again at lunchtime as I am ill. She had loved it, when I put her to bed this afternoon she was calling for Daddy.

hth.

"He is the one that is more strict with her".

should you aim for consistency in how strict you are with her ? That might help (rather than having a strict parent and a more lenient one)

Powerstunting
She's experimenting, trying to exert control over both of you
Don't give in, don't be rattled by it, tell her daddy is going to get her dressed/breakfast/whatever, no matter how much noise she makes
She'll get over it
at the hitting. Naughty step!

did you watch £tiny tearways in the house last week about a little girl age 3... hated her mum so much she wont let her mum go anywhere near her only her daddy...

it worked out that the daddy is the softie, laid back one but the mum was the demanding, forcing, discipline one that the little girl didnt like and thats why she preferred her daddy..(they got a 1 yr old son too) so Daddy had to tell the little girl off in front of her mummy as she was being nasty and saying "I HATE YOU!", and it works in the end so he had to support his wife abit more

there is another family on atm and its the son who hated his daddy.. quite similar!

its on itv3 - every nite i think

Didn't see that superblastoff but it figures....