DS1 went back to playskool really happy after the summer hols. About 2 weeks on he started wetting the bed again - he'd been dry since January. Then he started waking through the night - he sometimes did this before but would either just go back to sleep or get in with us and go to sleep - now he just gets in with us and lays there. Awake. For hours. When you look at him he shuts his eyes & pretends to be asleep. He's got really clingy as well.
A few weeks ago I was taken aside by the 'supervisor' as he'd had a go at a new boy. I was as horrified as they were shocked. It was a complete turnaround for him. Out of all the kids there he was the one that they'd least expect it from. I had serious words with him and he made up with the little boy and there have been no more incidents.
However, he now refuses outright to go there, I have to drag him. They say he usually asks to go home and says he wants mummy. I watched him a few days ago and he was trying to play with a group of 5 lads. The supervisor said "look at them playing, he's fine". But they weren't playing with him, they were kind of working as one playing against him if you get what I mean. A couple of minutes later he was walking about by himself, dragging his feet, looking as miserable as sin which I pointed out. Apparently because I'm his mum I'm being oversensitive to it and to them he just looked like a little boy wondering what to play with next. As soon as she'd said that he started crying asking to go home. I had to go in to settle him. He stayed. When I picked him up they said that they'd split up that group of boys and made them play with other people and DS had had a much better day as had the other children and the carers!!
Anyway, he's been off ill today and I was chatting with him gently trying to find out what's wrong with him, why he no longer likes playschool and he said that 2 boys scare him. 1 of them is supposed to be his friend. If it was DH not wanting to go to work and said something like that I'd think he was fibbing, but DS is brutally honest. He'd drop himself in it even if he could get away with something because he just can't lie.
The problem is, playschool are treating me differently now. They now say he's being difficult as he said he didn't want to make a snowflake the other day. So what's new? Half the little buggers didn't want to but they all did including DS. They seem like they're trying to get me to think it's all DS and that there's no problem there but I'm 100% sure there is. I just don't know how to handle it. I mean I'm pretty sure he's being ever so gently bullied but I don't really know what to do as they say he's fine and get's on great with ALL the kids there.
Any thoughts?
Sorry for being so long.