15 month old jealousy

[tigerpaws]

My 15 month old DD is ever so jealous at the moment.. Hits and pushes DH or other children if they come near me. Especially when she is tired.
She also pushes other children or cries(screams) if they have a toy she wants or if they tke something she has. Some days are worse than others. I'm just not sure how to handle it really. I try to encourage her to stroke instead of push/scratch but she is still too young to understand really.
It's more awkward when we're out because I feel like I have to explain her behaviour.
No other toddlers I know of the same age seem to be the same although I know it is a 'normal' phase for her to be going through.
Some other Mum's make me feel like DD is being difficult but deep down I know she just doesn't know how to deal with these situations. She is still only little. Anyone else have similar experiences or words of advice?

Hi this doesnt sound unusual to me she cant use words yet to describe her feelings so gets a little physical and frustrated. She may have a little separation anxiety? she wants you and no on else is allowed in - my DD1 was like this with her dad. I guess you have to firm with her about hurting others but perhaps try and do lots of one on one things with her so she gets lots of attention. And where possible ignoring the bad and praising the good does work - may be worth taking her away from the scene of the incident for a few minutes to calm down if she is very upset.

I feel for you i when you talk about other Mums comments - my 2 DD's seem to pull stunts that others dont on occasion - although Im starting to see now that all kids have their challenges and some reveal them early on (like ours) and other wait until 3 and 4.Good luck and keep posting on progress!

Thanks Beccalanismum
It's good to hear from someone else who has experienced it and to have the reassurance. You know those totally irrational thoughts that we sometimes have as parents. me anyway!
Am I doing something wrong? etc.etc. Though really I know that it's just toddler hood!
It's a good idea to remember that all children have challenges to face and that ours are experiencing it earlier than others.
How old are your 2?
Thanks for your advice.

No worries mine and 3.5 and 19 months - one very high maintenance emotionally (very sensitive to stress, changes and extreme tantrums) the other is more physical - climbing, grabbing everything and escaping through all but locked doors. DD1 is much happier if she has a predictable routine and has everything explained to her in advance - she hit toddlerhood about 15 months and was in full swing when DD2 arrived!!. DD2 has been known to push and bite DD2 but this has stopped a bit now she has some words (mostly MINE!!!!)

The most "helpful" quote I had from a Mum of 5 kids was "well none of mine ever had a tantrum - subtext "you must be doing something wrong".Well Im still working on it.......