3 year old DD1 has always been quite bad with my 10mo DD2 but things have got a lot worse since the baby has started to crawl and I am clueless as to what to do. DD2 is naturally inquisitive and wants to be involved in whatever it is that DD1 is playing with. This always results in shrieks of "No, mine" from DD1, followed closely by pushing and shoving the baby away. I can easily spend the whole day telling DD1 off for hurting the baby.
I understand from her point of view it must be terribly frustrating to have built a nice garage for her cars, and then to have it trashed immediatly. I`ve treid explaining but not sure she understands
I also have a problem in that DD1 doesnt understand that DD2 doesnt like some of the games DD1 tries to play with her, but DD1 doesn`t listen when I tell her to stop
Im sure its a common problem but my friends with children roughly the same ages dont seem to have the extreme problems I`m having
I dont really want to start using naughty steps or anything like that and Im worrying that if I carry on shouting its just going to create massive sibling rivalry. But its driving me mad. When DD2 was a baby and DD1 would hit her, I used to just ignore her, pick up the baby and walk away, but not sure that will work now as the baby just wants to play. Does anyone have any ideas ?