my 8y dd1 is hormonal

[muma3]

i need some help with my 8y dd1. She is constantly sulking and i havent a clue how to behave around her at the moment. If i ask her if she wants something she will say "no" just to be stubborn and always seems to be losing out just recent all over her bad moods. She has started talking to my dd2 (4y) like she is her mother and talks to everyone like something she just trod in . i feel like i am a really good parent and have done everything to prevent this kind of thing happening in the past but this seemed to be unavoidable. She seems to cry over everthing but if i ask her what is the matter she says that "she doesnt know" or "i dont know how to be good" . i feel like im at the end of my tether. i hae been told that she might be hormonal and may start puberty early but how can i get her to calm down and be happy?????????

I read you're thread and thought I had wrote it myself. DD1 is 7.5 yrs and has been doing this for about 6 weeks. Crying and saying she doesn't know what is wrong, sulking and acting like me around dd2. I seriously think it is hormones as she has started to develope and has started to moan about back ache every few weeks. She can not seriously be starting her periods yet can she???

Have a friend who teaches primary school and she does have 8 & 9 year olds in her class who have started their periods so the onset of puberty is a possible explanation

do you think if she does start her periods she will chill out a bit more or is it bound to make her worse?
is my future bright or to gt worse before it gets better?

She may find it easier that there is something physical for her to relate her mood swings to - proof that it's not just in her head. My teach friend (here with me!) says these girls can be a bit unpredictable for a couple of days a month but on the whole they are more mature & settled most of the time. Have you had the talk with her so she is prepared & knows what to expect if it does happen?

From my dim recollection - girls can have a hormone surge at 8 and then again early teens with the onset of puberty.

I was surprised last year to receive a note from my sons' school about sex education in Year 3. I initially wondered what kind of mad Government scheme they were implementing. I turned up at a meeting on the subject prepared to do battle, but was stopped in my tracks by the Head quoting the statistic that 20% of girls now menstruate by the age of 8. So it is possible your daughters may be about to start their periods. I would have thought it well worth talking both to your daughters and to their teachers - after all, they might start while at school. The school should have some policy on the matter, and there should be somewhere in the school for girls to go without embarrassment if caught short or badly affected.

going to speak to school about this because as far as i have noticed they dont have any sanitry devices for girls there, even though they have just changed it to a primary and now have children there up to the age of 11y. this may be something that is in the pipeline and i am sure they must realise this is needed i will speak to the teachers and see what accomadations they make for them . maybe speak to the school nurse to see if she could be there when i have THE talk with her . though this day was well in the future yet but i think you are right hallgerda and she should be prepared . thanksxx

Is normal. Taking her out for some quality mother-daughter grownup bonding time may help. A bit.

Mood swings don't mean periods are imminent, btw -- dd1 was like this at 8, and now 10.5 and still flat as a flat thing. But yes, primary school should be geared up for top juniors starting their periods, but many aren't.

I think that statistic of 20% starting at age 8 may be overestimating, though -- in dd1's Y6 class, only one girl has apparently started, though the other girls think she may be lying(!). And they're 10 or 11.

When I was at school we had the talk about periods in the second year of secondary school, when at least half of us were already getting them. IMO this should have been done at primary school.

BTW my sister started her periods when she was 9. I don't think she was really prepared for it. Even if your dd isn't about to start her periods it's probably still a good idea to tell her about it just in case.

I started mine at the age of ten and we had to go in and ask the school to put the relevant items in place for correct disposal. I also had to get permission to change in the toilets rather than the class room wih the rest the class for games as I was the only child with a mature figure. I hadn't had the talk with my mum and hadn't got a clue what was happening to me so found it really scary till mum sat down and told me what was going on.

Started a similar thread a while ago. After starting it, definite physical signs of puberty began. So, yes, think it would appear to be part and parcel of being 8!

Here's my thread if it helps

im worried thought that it isnt and im going to scared her for no reason ??

Why is it scaring her to tell her about periods and puberty? [puzzled emoticon] My dd1 has known the facts of life for ages, and even ds (age 6) knows that women have periods.

im just concerned that she will now be worried about things and maybe it is a bit premature. i didnt start my periods till i was 13 and apparently your children follow suit approx. i shall have the talk but seeing as nothing else is going on ie:-breast sore or pubic hair i might just hiint at it for a while before i go in depth into it . she does know that mummy bleeds from her fannyann but doesnt really understand the ins and outs of it . might just go into it slowly over few months amd still ask the school nurse for advice on this subject on how to explain the best way for young girls and also ask when they will be getting this info from the school because i would prefer to be the one to teel her .