DS - 3.2 not playing with other children, doesn't seem to get a lot of physical stuff or why its fun, but very advanced mentally

[BumptiousandBustly]

Does anyone else think I should be worried about DS? I can't tell if I am being a really paranoid parent, or if I am right to worry.

DS is: 3.2 and is very advanced in some ways and NOT AT ALL in others.

The NOT WAYS:

He really only plays with other children if its for a short time, in a closed environment (i.e. a home) and then its got to be specific children (one or two he will do this with). Other children he can't quite seem to "work out"

If we go to anywhere outdoors - or a soft play area - he is not interested in playing there at all and hangs around the adults wanting to talk to them.

I have been noticing this for quite some time - he will just be wondering off on his own or trying to talk to me, while others are running round and playing and having a great time.

He is also not very tall and still runs like a much smaller child.

Pre-school also told me that his is either playing on his own there, or talking to adults and he is reluctant to attend and often has to be left crying.

(this is a little boy who is very confident with adults).

what he CAN do.

He is VERY verbal, and always has been. He is learning to read and is already at stage 4 of a phonics reading program (driven by him, we do it when he asks to) and he is always asking how to spell things, what things say etc.

I am trying to say to people that at this age he should be socializing more - not parallel playing but no-one is hearing me - please help - is this something I should be worried about?

Glad you have changed his pre-school and he is settling nicely.

He sounds great, very like my neighbour's child who also found pre-school settings and playing with other children difficult when he was 3. Apparentely he too would only talk with adults at this age. He is now nearly 6 and you would never know there had been an issue. The change for him came at about 4 or so.

My son likewise didn't really play with the children at his pre-school when he was 3 (although did play with friend's children at home etc). By the time he was 4 he was making new friends at the school nursery- there was a real change from 3 to 4 and I hope you find this with your boy.

Hope you get some news on the not growing thing. That sounds a bit worrying, although they do slow down a lot -does he lack energy? Is he full of beans?