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6yo dd persists in doing things she has been told off for. I'm getting this wrong.

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skyatnight · 08/06/2011 09:49

This may sound a bit stupid. Dd seems to have little projects. Her latest one is to do with injuries and bandages and plastercasts. A girl she knows hurt her foot and had a bandage and another friend broke his arm. Dd is very interested in this. She has been asking for bandages, has taken packets of plasters and wasted them all (stuck them to a stick in the garden?) She is fashioning casts by cutting the toes off socks and the arms off T-shirts - ruining good clothes. She seems to have no regard for my feelings. She doesn't seem to care that I have paid good money (I don't have much) for these clothes. I am really cross about it.

I can't watch her every minute and, in any case, I like her to be able to spend some time on her own. I have tried reasoning with her. I have tried shouting. I have tried punishments and withdrawing things she likes. In a way I admire her persistence and imagination but I am worried that she doesn't care that I have told her off and is just carrying on with it. In one ear and out the other. Another thing she does is cut her own hair - aaargh! Maybe this isn't very serious but is it normal for a 6yo to be persistently naughty like this? Any advice, similar stories?

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skyatnight · 08/06/2011 14:50

Thanks. I do think there's room for improvement! Smile

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AgonyBeetle · 08/06/2011 15:30

Definitely don't waste energy blaming yourself. I have two older children who do not randomly cut things up, write on walls or smear stuff around, nor randomly chuck themselves off high surfaces. Some dc are just hardwired for this kind of thing. Call it an "experiential learning style" if it makes you feel better. But lock up the scissors and the plasters. Grin

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