Dd1 is 4 next month. Over the last few weeks her behaviour has been pretty trying. She's been wetting herself and not telling me, being deliberately disobedient, engineering reasons to have a tantrum, she has also been waking in the night crying, maybe once a week or more and often not lucid.
Don't know if all these things are linked. I'm sure dh and I aren't helping matters. We are both knackered, dd2 has been waking several times a night. Dh is spending all hours trying to build a business website. Dd1, while generally self-sufficient, talks non-stop, morning till night and is very wearing. We are low on patience and feel like we are constantly nagging her to leave dd2 along, stop doing this and that etc. Dh has more patience than me. I am often more focused on dd2 who is 8mo and bfed. I also generally have less tolerance for tantrums over minutitiae, 'I wanted to go first, I wanted a different cup, I don't want to tidy up', and prolonging bed time in various ways, inevitably leading to a tantrum. I don't think she is anxious about anything. She loves her sister, is very chatty and outgoing. She starts school in sept but is v excited about it.
Anyone gone through a similar phase and any tips or at least reassurance I'm not doing a shit job?!