do you have a plan?

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or do you intend to deal with issues as they come along?

i ask this because i am dealing with some really challenging behaviour in my 5 year old and when i think back to how my parents (mostly mum actually) dealt with us, i realise that they didn't really seem to have a clear idea of how to deal with us, especially as we got older into our teens, i was very aware that my mum was panicing and didn't have a clue how to curb bad behaviour and i definitely used it to my advantage and pushed the boundaries because i knew she didn't really know where the boundaries were herself.

so, do you/did you have an idea of how you'll/you would deal with your children in the more difficult times? if so, could i be so cheeky as to ask what your plan was/is?

At the end of the day you can only plan for so many issues,everyday is a new one, a new issue I deal with there and then. Its easy to panic like your mom did and we have all done it,but try if you can to get as much info as you can and take care of it.
Always set boundries but not too harsh. My DD knows if shes naughty and I mean very naughty its early bed with no playing etc. I am not being harsh.

yes i know what you mean. no-one really knows what is ahead of them. i think i am just very aware that everything seemed to catch my parents by surprise as if they never imagined they would have to discipline their dcs or even that as we got older we would never ask to go out with friends and then later, boyfriends. i just got this really strong sense of them panicing at every stage. I'd rather have a general idea of how i will deal with things than be a rabbit caught in the headlights when my son asks if he can sleepover at a friend's