How to do a time out when they won't stay there?

[clara10]

So, time outs for bad behaviour such as hitting, kicking, throwing, etc.

DS 2.8 used to 'obey' but now he just won't stay on the stair. It's a big joke to follow me away. I even try to wait with him but to no avail. He is attention seeking.

I keep replacing him and have done this for 30 mins. He finds the whole thing hillarious. I get very stressed.

What should I try?

Sorry, but you just have to keep putting him back on the stair however lon it goes on.

If you're committed to time out as a method, then you keep putting him back til he stays there with no interaction or arguing about it.

I don't use it on my son for that very reason, time out is often for me as much as him and I simply got too cross, we ended up making a huge drama ie taking endless amounts of time for a misdemeanour that took a second, all of which ensured my attention was firmly on him and not his well-behaved sister who had been the victim of the misdemeanour in the first place.
The only thing that did work was to put him behind the stairgate as he can't yet open it - I've recently done away with the stairgate so can't even threaten that any more! Sympathies but I think it doesn't work for everyone and you'll have to find another way (can you let me know when you do!!)

For the first few times I used time -out for ds2 ( who is 3.7) I had to put him back constantly, for about 45minutes, before he eventually stayed there. Each time I put him back on the step he would laugh and run off, it was infuriating beyond belief and I had to grit my teeth and seethe quietly, but eventually he stayed there, and now ( this was about a year ago) he stays there whenever I put him on ( which isnt often as the warning is now usually enough) . It does drive you mad, but I found it was worth it!!

I think there are time-out mats that you can buy that sound a noise when they get up from it. My friend had one and it was fab. Also had a timer you could set that sounded a buzzer when their time was up. Have a google as I can't remember the name.
Other than that it's just perseverance. No eye contact, no communication just keep on returning them to the time-out spot.

We didn't use time out but we did rarely send them to their rooms. In which case I sometimes had to hold the door shut.

I put dd somewhere she can't get away from - like on a chair or the side in the kitchen. But then I'm not using the 'naughty step' in the supernanny manner - dd has a timeout to recover her temper and calm down, not to pretend to be contrite.