tears & hurt feelings

[sansouci]

When I went to fetch dd from school yesterday, she was in tears. One of her so-called best friends (M) had invited the other mutual best friend (S) to her house but dd wasn't included. Dd was absolutely gutted & clearly hasn't yet learned to pretend not to care. M & S were clearly uncomfortable & M's mother ignored the situation entirely. What should I do, apart from encourage dd to make other friends?

Well I try never to have a threesome as it invariably ends in tears. My DD therefore accepts that people take turns to go to people's houses for tea.

I think you should invite her friend back to tea and then the other friend the next week, so that your DD sees how it works in practice!

Mmm. I remember from my own school days that 2 is company but 3's a crowd. Awful seeing dd so socially defenseless & inept, tho. (she's only 5).

Soapbox - I agree absolutely! Ds's friends are invited one at a time. I wouldn't worry about it.

It'll get worse. Teenage girls are best friends one minute, worst enemies the next.

But at least when dd's a teenager, she can sort it out herself & won't disolve in floods of tears in front of all the mummies, their dcs, the headmistress...