Hi,
i have a 4yo DS, not yet at school. His 'best' friend with whom he spends a lot of time, is 18 months younger. I have noticed that he has become very bossy in this relationship (the hierarchy of age, no doubt) and have pulled him up on it when they have been with me, but his friend is now refusing to spend time alone with my son, because he doesn't like the way he gets treated. With other kids around it happens less.
What i am struggling with is how to talk to my son about it, and the fact that his friend doesn't want to come and play any more, or share lifts with him. He doesn't think he's being mean (he's not, just bossy) so I'm worried about saying 'X doesn't want to play with you any more because he thinks you're not nice to him' because i know he will be really upset by that, and i'm not sure he'll understand.
How do i talk to him about it?