DD cried when leaving the childminder

[dragonwick]

21 months DD cried today when l picked her up from the CM, which has happened once before. DD also mentions CMs name alot when she's away from her. Am I being over sensitive to feel upset by this? I am really happy that she loves spending time with the CM and I understand that it's good she has a strong bond with her but I couldn't help feeling that she may prefer spending time with the CM? I work 4 days and look after DD for 1 day. Ok I'm a little jealous - shall I just get over myself? Has anyone had this? Should i be working on the bond between my DD and I? Btw a newbie poster here, responses welcome.

i understand how you feel but i dont think you have to worry that much, i work as child practionner, we had children how get attached to us more than their parents, but doesnt means because the parents dont spend a lotof time with them, i think its just a stage and it will go

Please don't worry, or feel jealous about the relationship your DD has with her childminder. She's at an age when she's able to start developing strong, real relationships apart from her mum, but does not in any way whatsoever detract from her strongest relationship, the one with you.

I think it's great that she's a confident and happy child who is confident to develop good relationships with other people, and talk to you about them. You're clearly a lovely mum to her :)

As a childminder in the past, the crying is common at this age, and is a phase that passes. It's a developmental phase, won't harm your DD at all, just to do with her understanding how relationships develop outside the main one with you. Please don't worry about that! My kids would be happy as larry all day, and only, I mean ONLY, cry when their parents appeared: I used to feel that they simply were expressing their disapproval of the change of circumstances from my house to home as the crying was nearly always very, very short lived.

Thanks for your replies, they are reassuring. I should just appreciate that DD has a great CM and that they get on so well. I can understand that the crying could be a phase and it makes sense that it could be about the transition from CM to home. See I'm already getting over myself :)

I bet she talks about you all day when she's with the CM