After over-hearing this, I think I might need another chat about sex with DD

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I have twin girls who are now 10, we've discussed the basics regarding sex, periods etc as questions arose, and they did have a book which I have recently discovered they put in the charity shop bag as they thought it was disgusting!

I overheard a conversation between them the other day that made me think I need to explain further but need some ideas, bearing in mind they thought the book was gross:

DT1 - I've been thinking about this sex thing
DT2 - I know it's gross isn't it, I can't believe you have to do that to get a baby
DT1 - It might not be as gross as we think
DT2 - What do you mean?
DT1 - Well I don't think you have to kiss or anything yuck like that, maybe you just put it in and out and that's it, a baby starts growing.

DT2 - Oh right, yeah maybe.

So, any ideas on how to give more detail without freaking them out.

I think that tells you they don't want any more detail!
imo, that means they don't need anymore- most kids that age think it's all a bit gross. As long as they know they can talk to you if they do need more info, I don't think you need to worry

No experience but I can see you don't want them thinking like that!

What about talking about cuddles and being nice to be close with someone you love and how that can or can't lead to a baby (ie you can and should control getting pregnant but also you should enjoy it when the time comes)?

Oh they just sound so sweet and lovely! I think all girls think sex is a gross idea at that age. (I still think it's gross now :P) but they obviously don't have any interest in having sex (so they shouldn't!) so I don't think they need much more guidance on it really until they are hitting their teens. Maybe though, explore relationships rather than the act of sex itself. Explain that mummy and daddy love eachother very much and how it starts. Maybe tell them the story of how you met? I used to love my mums very funny story of how she met my dad.