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DS1 has bullied a little boy, help me please

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pfer · 09/11/2005 09:04

Collected DS1 from playschool yesterday (he's 3yrs 10months) and a new boy had started. He'll be just over 2.5yrs old I expect as that's the starting age. Taken aside I was told that DS1 had been poking the boy in the eyes, when told off he'd started kicking him in the shins. What a great first day for that little boy. I feel so ashamed...

He had a serious talking to but just wouldn't seem to acknowledge us when we were trying to discuss it. We hoped it was just a one off, but this morning he's already told me that when he goes to playschool this afternoon he's going to hurt 'that boy'!! Like he's planning it!

What the hell do I do? It's so unlike him to be like this.

Should I sit it for a while so he knows he's being watched, do I tell them to call me as soon as there is an incident so I can bring him home (We've learnt in the past that the only way to get through to him is by taking away his privileges - like being at playschool which he really likes).

There are a couple of other things though, just lately he's been more affectionate towards DS and myself (and DS2!!), but he's also been waking in the night and rather than going back to sleep like he usually would he's been getting into bed with us and laying awake for ages.

Help, suggestions please!!

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mrsjingles · 09/11/2005 09:13

My immediate thoughts when reading this are, is he being bullied himself, and taking it out on another boy. The extra affection and waking at night may point to something underlying if it's normally out of character for him. Have you asked at playschool if they've noticed anyone picking on him???

pfer · 09/11/2005 09:17

no I haven't asked. As I keep in good contact with them I would have hoped they would tell me wouldn't they? Perhaps not. I guess it is possible and it wouldn't be the first time I'd have had to take him away from a situation because bigger boys had been ganging up on him and pushing him over..

I'm going to speak to the supervisor today and ask her opinion.

He seems to think it's ok though - since he's made a new friend who is VERY rough - even does kick boxing classes. Could this have been the start of it?

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