PLEASE HELP me. Desperate with almost 5 yr old ds1.

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I have 2 dses, an almost one yr old and ds1, nearly 5 and due to start fullt time school this August.

I have spent mpst of toda in tears about him/ He os a defiant little shit. He is hysterical too. I cannot deal with him. I do not know what to do with him. He is fine with others, but at hime is AWFUL. He is at preschool 3 hr a day, but it isn;t enough. We ar in scotland, so they start a little later here i think? If we had more monsy I would send him all day as he is so bored at home. We live in a village with absolutely nothing to do. I do not drive. I am a sahm and i feel utterly trapped by him and b my lack of transport. There are frequent buses, but getting them both on is a nightmare. Plus the buses here are full of neds and it is horrid.

Please what do it do. i do not like him anymore. I do love him

I am utterly,m utterly deperate.

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Do they have something like Homestart in your area?

You are not alone. Greater majority of us have worn the t-shirt down to bare threads. None of this helps of course but just wanted you to know in case it helps. It's all very well for me to say don't give up, keep in there he needs you more than ever we think they grow up quickly but really bad behaviour can be their only way of expressing their utter frustration at life and all it it throwing their way. We are the grown-up and for that we have to keep at it. I know it is probably of little help saying there are walks, "exploring" pick a letter out of a box a day and go exploring things that start with that letter, or a colour or collect leaves or listen out for the birds see if you can spot any that return to the same spot as they are busy nest building or maybe that's a little too late just now. Sorry I know how desparate you are I have been there and at times still am there but honestly praise the good no matter how small and ignore the bad. It does work but it is blllllll very hard work. I know. Wishing you the best.

Thanks. It does help just to know others have been there.

We have no homestart or similar.

He is essentially a good kid and i know things will be easier when he goes to school. I feel so low today about it.

Have you tried looking into the nearest Mumsnet Local for your area, see if anyone can suggest something locally, you could perhaps get a lift with somebody who does drive to a club or activity for him. I don't know football, church club, Beavers, whatever... sounds like you both need a break.

Feel for you, we have all been there and it's a horrid way to feel.

Thanks. I have some good pals here who help out wrt transport.

Just a bit overwhelmed today.

I have kids the same age and both in full time nursery and DD1 is still a little S**T at the moment. Perhaps it is an age thing, or a Scottish thing

I've been there. Still feel like that in the school holidays. DS1 is 5 and is such hard work, all the time. He is almost certainly autistic, but on the high functioning end of the spectrum and will just argue, argue, argue and won't listen or be reasoned with. Exhausting. I have had help from Homestart, they are fab. Sympathy :)

Gosh, autism to deal with too.

Jeezo, if I had know how hard havig kids was. . . ach, who am I kidding, I would still have them!

Hold on, only a few months till school. I feel your pain....DD started school last year, as the youngest in her year. Had some people telling me to hold her back so she could be the oldest. Apart from knowing she was ready for school, I don't think I could have entertained her for another year, without collapsing with exhaustion, and she's my only DC..
On a practical note, can he have a pal from nursery round, sometimes more kids is actually easier, and can you get driving?