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Help!DS behaving aggressively towards friends at school.

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decidedlydizzy · 04/05/2011 11:28

Yesterday ds?s Yr 1 teacher asked ?to have a word? after school. She explained he had been behaving aggressive during the school day, scratching other children and elbowing one of them in the stomach. He had been punished appropriately within school but teacher concerned about his ?anger issues?. He had apparently acted in retaliation to being jumped on during football to which the others had denied. DS says this is why he acted angrily as they jumped on him. I just don?t know what to think. My husband and I talked to him about it at home and he knows this behaviour is unacceptable but I didn?t want to get to ott as I wanted him to trust me with his feelings about why he had reacted in such a way. Teacher said she had spoken to me as she had to tell the parents of other boys concerned and they might ?say something to me? about it? This left me thinking I should apologise to them for ds?s behaviour? Just not sure how to deal with this one. Husband and I feel like we?re doing something wrong. Ds doesn?t behave violently at home but does display a temper. Does he have ?anger issues?? Is she just labelling him? How can we try to make sure this doesn?t happen again?

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Chundle · 04/05/2011 12:25

Hi I have similar issues with my dd she's in year 2 but she ha ADHD. I always take her up to the child to apologise in front of their parents once I've explained to the parents fully what has happened I.e. my dd punched your boy in face today she's going to say sorry for it im ever so sorry she reacted like that because XYZ. However before making him apologise get the full story from him, if he was hit first an was sticking up for himself against others then its questionable as to getting him to say sorry. Make sure he feels he can tell you the truth - we are lucky that dd tells us when she has done something naughty and I see it as she's been told off at school so doesn't need another telling off at home

decidedlydizzy · 12/05/2011 10:16

thanks for your input. it's appreciated

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