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DD stripping herself of clothes and nappy during naps and at night, how to stop?

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ReginaPhilangee · 02/05/2011 21:06

DD 2.7yo, have been attempting to potty train in a relaxed way, she doesn't do anything in potty or loo but then when nappy goes back on or knickers go on, she tends to wee immediately.

I think she is learning some bladder control as she is stripping off completely during naps or before she falls asleep but no peeing. Tho last week she did strip off in order to leave a spectacular poo and wee at one end of the cot, I think she may be been trying to get it thru the bars...

Any way of stopping her from stripping off as telling her not to obv isn't working?

Am a bit reluctant about letting her pee all over the place so haven't done loads of nappy off time but do you think a couple of days of letting accidents happen will help her to realise that it's not very nice to wee on yourself and that she'll then try to get it in the potty?

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schmee · 02/05/2011 21:12

I think you've got two issues - getting her to keep her clothes on during naps and deciding whether she is ready to potty train or not. If you want her not to wee/poo in her cot during naps try putting her in a gro-bag back to front so she can't undo it. Also, she may be getting ready to drop her nap, so try putting her down a bit later.

On the potty training, I would advise going for it (allocating a week to stay at home, no nappies/pull-up except for sleep), but I know some people find a more laid back approach works for them and their child.

Incidentally one of my boys used to crap all over his cot at this age during naps. I have to admit I let him drop the nap rather than clear up his dirty protest everyday. But I had heard about the gro-bag trick then!

simpson · 02/05/2011 21:14

was just going to suggest putting gro bag on backwards and was beaten to it

It stops my DD removing her clothes at night....

TheVisitor · 02/05/2011 21:14

I used to put gaffer tape on my kids' nappies to stop them stripping.

RhinestoneCowgirl · 02/05/2011 21:18

I'm currently potty training with DD atm, similar age to yours. I found that to start with I had to have her completely bare-bummed around the house, and she was happy to use the potty (still had some messy accidents tho). I tried putting knickers on and she just wet through them.

A couple of weeks later and we have now progressed to knickers and leggings, also for out and about. I do still put nappy on for nap/night-time but they are often dry.

If you don't want to go wholly into potty training, the only thing I would suggest would be gaffer tape...

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ReginaPhilangee · 02/05/2011 21:19

she hasn't been in a grobag for ages now and I am reluctant to go back to one, esp as we are planning to put her into a proper bed sometime soon...

she is quite tantrummy atm so also not ready to drop nap as she'll just drag herself about weeping because her shoe is undone or she can't do up dolly's nappy fast enough etc

maddening that she seems to have some control, has read potty training story a million times, but seems to be holding it all in whenever on potty or loo.

Did you shorten nap before dropping it? Am never sure whether to give her an hour or 30 min or whatever, I just know she needs some sleep. She is waking up quite grumpy these days tho.

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ReginaPhilangee · 02/05/2011 21:22

not exactly relishing the idea of having to CUT a nappy off my DD when she wakes up after nap!! (can't think how else you'd get a gaffered nappy off??)

I find the training extremely tedious but perhaps will get a few more toys and stories and ipad apps next week to keep on going with it and accept the accidents. Good to hear that you have had a bit of progress rhinestone!

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IWillNotNeverEatATomato · 02/05/2011 21:24

have you thought about moving her into a bed, so that she can get up and go on the potty rather than being trapped in the cot

also have you thought about rewarding her when she performs in the potty,
the promise of a 'special' chocolate button (the ones with sprinkles on that you get in pick & mix) used to work wonders for my DS

pookamoo · 02/05/2011 21:25

Hi regina, have you tried putting her in popper vests for her naps so it's not so easy to pull the nappy off?

Totally agree about not being ready to drop naps, my DD is 2.5 and does the same as yours if she doesn't get a sleep in the day. Bedtimes are also horrendous without a nap in the day. Sometimes DD will sleep for 2 hours in the day, again I am never sure whether to let her, but if she goes down late it makes for a very late night... DH is up there now trying his best persuading tactics!

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ReginaPhilangee · 02/05/2011 21:26

yes got to clear some stuff out of her room before I can order the bed...

Have offered a reward but not yet a great source of excitement, I think if she actually did something and I gave her a choccie we'd be on our way but she insists on showing off her Bladder and Sphincter of Steel.

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RhinestoneCowgirl · 02/05/2011 21:26

That sounds v like our house pookamoo - and exactly why DH in charge of bedtime .

simpson · 02/05/2011 21:27

How long does she nap in the day for???

I think one sleep cycle is 40mins so maybe try waking her after that.....

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ReginaPhilangee · 02/05/2011 21:28

oh yes the vests! will get a three pack and see if it works tho she is a determined little bugger girl.

We are trying to keep naps to an hour or less and if she appears not to want to go to bed I tell her she can just have a rest with her dolly and I give her a book to "read" to dolly which generally works.

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simpson · 02/05/2011 21:28

popper vests with maybe some knickers ontop???

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ReginaPhilangee · 02/05/2011 21:31

pooka I would feel that 2hrs is a bit long at this age but of course depends what yr dc is used to. Am remembering that one of my baby books has recommended nap times for age groups but I think I've lent it out...annoying.

Sleep cycle length is a good point, will try tmw.

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RhinestoneCowgirl · 02/05/2011 21:33

Sounds like she does have control Regina - which is good news.

My DD is also stubborn - I would have trained before this as her nappy was often dry for hours on end, so I knew she could hold it. The main hold-up was she took against the potty, but is now reconciled. We also got her this book

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ReginaPhilangee · 02/05/2011 21:44

cheers rhinestone. We offer toilet or potty, I think she prefers loo but her book bangs on about potties so I have a couple for her to have a go with.

Am off to check weather forecast tmw to see if it will nice and warm for nappy off time!

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pookamoo · 02/05/2011 21:47

ah, sleep cycle seems to be a very good tip!

do you have a toddler seat for your loo? Our local Home Bargains does padded ones for £3.99 each, much cheaper than anywhere else I have seen.

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ReginaPhilangee · 02/05/2011 22:03

yes we have one nice mothercare seat and 2 hideous pink handmedowns. so no major issues there, she'll sit on loo for ages if I let her watch annie on ipad!

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Freezingmyarseoff · 02/05/2011 22:11

Have you tried rewarding her for keeping her nappy on? DD (same age as yours) went through a phase of taking off all her clothes & nappies very recently. We made a sticker chart and gave her a sticker after every nap or night-sleep she kept her nappy on. And then gave her a bigger treat once she had 4 days in a row. Only took a few days before she stopped undoing them.

bessie26 · 03/05/2011 02:02

DD1 (2.5) started stripping off at nap/sleep times about a month ago. We wondered if she was hot, so we put a fan in her room, got her some summer PJs (short arms & legs) and a 2tog duvet (she insists on getting under the duvet fully clothed at nap times). She's kept her clothes on ever since!

I hadn't even thought about it being potty-training related (we assumed the nappy was just coming off at the same time as the trousers), but we are also doing a very laid back approach to potty training as DD2 arrived a couple of weeks ago & I have no desire to chase DD1 around the house with a potty while trying to bf a newborn!

fridakahlo · 03/05/2011 03:40

Gaffa tape on the nappy was going to be my suggestion.

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ReginaPhilangee · 03/05/2011 22:01

offer of "keeping nappy on" reward didn't work as I walked back in to empty her bin and found she was just beginning her evening strip. She said she needed a wee so I sat her on loo for a bit and of course she didn't do one, just told me a long story about what she played with today, and so I told her it was time to go to sleep and....drumroll....put her nappy on backwards! it seemed to work!

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yawningbear · 04/05/2011 10:18

We had this problem a while ago with DD at nap times, I only had to actually use the gaffa tape once, (and yes you do have to cut the nappy off) and after that one occasion she was happy once again to keep it on without being taped into the thing! However she was younger, around 18 months I think, she is now 2.5 so still younger than yours but I think if we tried it now it would either result in a major tantrum or her demanding to be gaffa taped into every nappy .

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