Fibs

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Ds tells little fibs - like
Q 'why didn't you do your homewoek when I asked you?'
A 'I forgot'

Nothing major - he is pretty honest generally. I point out the discrepancies to him and dont let him get away with it.

It drives DP mad. It is as if he has murdered someome and he has a real go at him. I say its a normal part of childhood - I told some whoppers in my time 9rarely got away with it though). DP can go on and on and on about -then demands 'why did you do it?' or my favourite 'what made you do it?' which I think is quite a hard question for a child to answer. Now he is threatening to take away his favourite toy 'for ever' and stop most of his out-of-school activities. (He 'forgot' about the holiday assignment whiich wasnt compulsory anyway).

Do kids tell fibs or is DP being an arse?

No fibbers, really?

Your DS's behaviour is pretty standard for kids caught out doing something they shouldn't be. Its not major deception as far as I'm concerned - not saying he should get away with it, but I'd just pull him up straight away and show him you are not remotely fooled.

Q Why didn't you do your homework when asked?
A I forgot
Q Hmm - are you sure it wasn't because you couldn't be bothered?

most kids will admit the fib at this point, and you can say 'well you'd better get on with it now then'

Your DH is being completely over the top. Spanish inquisition questions that put your DS on the spot will just make him nervous and tongue tied. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it unless it gets really persistant and is about much bigger things than missed homework.

Taking away toys 'forever' is just silly - your DS has no incentive to try to improve his behaviour, he's got no hope of earning his toys back.

Does your DH react similarly with all naughtiness? - if he does, that might be one reason your DS is fibbing, he's trying to avoid a very prolonged row.

DH is being an arse. He is acting like he is having a mid life crisis now and being a complete tosser all around. I have told him that even I can't concentrate for hours while he has one of his rants. He seems to equate a fib at 6 with being a mass murdered at 18. He is quite a control freak and expects everything to be perfect. He is always right though (of course).

He once didn't speak to me for a whole day because he didn't approve of my choice of mobile phone. He can be a bit demanding. He can also be increadible nice and kind and thoughtful.

"He once didn't speak to me for a whole day because he didn't approve of my choice of mobile phone."

Oh dear!

Sounds like a bit of a control freak.

Gosh your DS is only 6? - I thought he must be about nine or ten, for your Dh to be getting annoyed like that. There's no way a little boy that age would be able to cope with 'what made you do it?' questions.

It sounds as if your DH is expecting too much of a six year old, he's a little boy,he's bound to make mistakes. He'll end up making your son scared of him (sorry to say that, it sounds harsh) I'm sure he wouldn't want to do that, and I'm sure he can be very kind as you say.

But he really needs to lighten up, to reduce and shorten the telling offs, and to make sure he praises him when he's doing something well or trying hard, and shows him that he's proud of him.