2.5 year old wont listen - runs away

[mummysweeangel1]

really needing someone to tell me to dry my eyes and that everything will be ok....

went to pick up my DS from playgroup this morning (he is 2.5 years old and goes in 2 mornings a week) , anyway his teacher took me aside to say that when they had all been out playing this morning DS kept running away and wouldnt come back when they asked him to and eventually had to tell him to sit down and not allow him to play with the other children as he would just not do what he was told

I really like the staff at the nursery and dont have any doubts about them or the way they operate at all whatsoever, i am just really worried about DS- as he does this with me and will not do as he is told - from getting ready in the mornings- to getting bathed at nightime and into his pyjamas - etc

i really dont know what to do and am so upset atm - havent stopped crying since we got home (doesnt help that i am 7 months pregnant and hormonal).

any advice would be greatly appreciated

Oh, poor you. The tears are the hormones talking: you know he is just testing boundaries and doing normal toddler stuff, they do this because they are discovering they can. Seems a bit OTT for your teacher to 'take you aside' about what sounds perfectly normal to me but I know from my DS's nursery (which I adore), sometimes they just tell you anything relevant about your DC's day at all, good and bad. My DS is going through a pushing phase which I hear about regularly (sigh)

Big hug and don't worry, it'll be fine, unfortunately it'll just be a case of repeating yourself until blue in the face for a while.

Sounds really normal behaviour for a 2 year old - don't worry. Just keep being consistent with the rules. Have consequences if the rules are broken. But I found with my DD (who was always running off) to keep them engaged with positive encouragement works - e.g. if you walk nicely we'll have a cake when we get home.

Nursery staff must be used to dealing with this sort of behaviour on a daily basis. I know where my dd used to go there were a few that needed a bit of extra encouragement to come inside after outdoor play.

I wouldn't take it too seriously myself. We've had all sorts of things said by nursery and school staff which really worried me - in hindsight none of their observations turned out to be a problem in the end. I think it may be as music says - sometimes they just want to tell you something about the day.

Try not to worry - there are many, many two year olds like this.

Ahh don't worry - sounds quite normal behaviour to me. We are going through a bit of a testing time with our 2.9 year old DD who has been playing up at nursery (refusing to wash hands before lunch then throwing drink on floor etc). I understand that it is upsetting though but I really do think it is normal. I am also finding that positive reinforcement does help i.e "we will do something nice later if you can be a good girl". Her key worker at nursery has also been using reward stickers with her. Don't despair - it will just be a phase (that's what I am telling myself anyway!)

hey everyone -

just came back on to check this - thankyou so much for the replies, they have made me feel more positive about the whole thing.

fingers crossed it will get better and he will listen to me and his nursery teachers

have just felt so sad all afternoon - but the hormones defo dont help matters

Think it's probably a knee jerk reaction from a nursery worker who's had a bit of a difficult day. Nothing to worry about. Hormones don't help. But in a little while you'll see it for what it is. All is fine.