Asking for water and to do a wee at bed time

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Hello,

My ds was 3 in Jan. He's just getting the hang of potty training during the day. He's always gone to bed with a story no problem, and we're still putting him in a nappy at night.

Last night, shortly after we had said goodnight and I'd put him to bed, he called out from his room that he wanted some water. I didn't answer him, but I took in a cup of water without looking at him and walked back out. A short while later, he called out that he wanted a wee on the potty. I went up and got him out of bed and sat him on the potty and he did do a wee. I put him back to bed and walked out.

My dh said that he was just stalling because he didn't want to go to sleep and that I'm under the thumb for giving in to his demands. He said that we just should leave him when he's in bed and let him do a wee in his nappy. I thought that this sent out the wrong message. We had a bit of a row about it, because I said that it's not like he was asking for chocolate milk and cuddles. Nothing exciting about water and I thought it was good that he asked to do a wee on the potty.

So, should we leave him once he's in bed? Or should we give in to his "demands" and let him have water and a wee if he wants?

My kids went through this phase, and like you I didn't want to give out mixed messages re potty training.

I would encourage him to have a drink half an hour or so before bed, and a wee last thing before tucking him in.

If he still asks, do as you are doing, keep it brief with minimal fuss and the novelty will wear off very soon if he is doing it for attention.

But I wouldn't just ignore him.

Leave some water on his bedside table when he goes to bed. Read story and then offer a wee so it is literally just before he goes to sleep. FWIW I think you are right that it's a good thing that he recognised he needed a wee and wanted to get up to do it rather than lie in his nappy. Sounds like things are moving in the right direction

I reckon if he wants one drink of water and one wee, then you should go along with it. If he wants 10 drinks of water then he's messing you about.

And it he wants to use the potty instead of going in his nappy, then you should definitely encourage that - you may find if he's used the potty at bedtime he'll have a dry nappy in the morning.

Thanks everyone. :)

i think you should be prepared offer the potty first thing before bed, and have the water ready and waiting