puberty chat with ds age 10

[smileymam]

my son is almost 11 and due to start comp in september. They are having a chat in school shortly about puberty and sex, just wanted to know should i prehaps get him a sutible book to have a look at before this chat or after? his dad doesnt live with us although he sees him, i feel uncomfatable asking him to have a chat with him, not sure i know enough about it myself to give him all the right imformation. I do think this is a very young age to have to discuss this with him, and feel once we,ve had the "chat" i,m losing my little boy :-(

any book recomendations?

imho lots of brief snippets work better than one Chat.

and no, you won't be losing your little boy: he'll still be your little boy, just slightly better educated

A book that my sister bought her son(s) is called living with a willy. It seemed to cover just about everything. Although, TBH, she started earlier than you and you shouldn't be surprised if he already knows more than you think.

I don't think that there's anything wrong with chatting to your Ds about sex at this age. Just keep it casual and maybe ask him if he has any questions, and then answer him honestly. If you don't know, just say so and then find out and get back to him. I think that this is a good age to start a conversation because he's young enough not to be embarrassed, but old enough to understand the information. He's going to be hearing things from friends and on the playground etc anyway, so it's better that he gets the correct information from his parents rather than distorted information from his peers. Rather than losing your little boy, it might make him realise that he can talk to his parents about anything and bring you closer together. :)

I like "Lets Talk About Sex" - its suitable for his sort of age and covers all sorts of stuff. Don't worry that you're losing him - he won't mysteriously change and "grow up" just because he knows some things he didn't used to know. It won't change him any more than learning his times tables changed him.

Young enough not to be embarrassed may be optimistic. My 10yo is very embarrassed, has suddenly developed modesty overnight and is generally showing a lot of signs of incipient growing up, so I am glad I got a fair amount of information in first.

thanks everyone, feel a bit better about things now, think, i,ll have a look out for a decent book and tell him if he wants to ask anything i,m here and will answer him as honestly as i can