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co-sleeping....trying to get DD into a crib

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tlat · 25/04/2011 08:42

Hi, I have a 10 day old DD and after a very traumatic delivery finally got home with her after 5 days. Whilst in hospital she mainly slept with me as I wasn't allowed out of bed because of monitoring, transfusions and various surgical packs left in, so it was just easier to breastfeed on demand whilst she slept with me as it was very painful to get her out of crib despite ongoing epidural. Since we have been home she coninues to sleep with me and DH as it's been still difficult to get out of bed to do the night feeds. As things are settling, I can't seem to get her to settle in her crib at all now... at any time of day/night. She doesn't like not being carried at all times or sleeping up tight to me. I've tried some 'controlled' crying but it is all very distressing. DH smokes so co-sleeping isn't ideal. any moe experienced mums with advice or stories to share would be much appreciated!

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TanteRose · 25/04/2011 08:45

Do you have a moses basket she can sleep in?

Also, leaving her to cry is not good for her, she has no idea she is a different person from you, and she thinks that you are never coming back if you leave her Please don't leave her to cry...

It is only natural for her to want to be near you and be cuddled by you.

this would be an ideal time for your DH to give up smoking

Tee2072 · 25/04/2011 08:49

She is much too young for any sort of controlled crying. She is just a baby and needs you.

I agree, your DH needs to quit smoking.

RitaMorgan · 25/04/2011 08:56

You can't do controlled crying on a 10 day old baby!

Just let her sleep with you - your DH can either stop smoking or sleep on the sofa for now. That's what we did at first. By about 8 weeks DS was starting the night in a bedside cot then coming into bed for feeds, and at 5 months he went into a cot in his own room.

Just do what works for now, your baby is tiny.

CharlotteBronteSaurus · 25/04/2011 08:59

can DH sleep on the sofa for a bit?
I'm a believer in sleep training for older babies (with or without crying) but I honestly believe that for the first three months there's nothing you can do other than go with the flow

buffy13 · 25/04/2011 09:27

I had a snuggle nest for baby to sleep in in bed with me (you can't roll on them then) it was great , then at 4 weeks he went in crib next to bed with no problem. DH shouldn't be anywhere near baby if he is a smoker.....

ffried · 26/04/2011 21:37

i agree, am into controlled crying but 10days is too young go with her for now, babies change all the time...i used to breastfeed fall asleep with her which i shoudn't have done then transfer when she was asleep! or my hubby would lift her in the moses crib if i'd fallen asleep!

AngelDog · 26/04/2011 21:53

Controlled crying is not suitable for babies under 6 months. Using it before then can mean that a baby doesn't wake and cry when hungry, which can lead to poor weight gain.

It's totally normal for a baby that age not to be able to sleep apaart from you, although if your DH smokes, co-sleeping is not recommended even if he's not in the room and doesn't smoke indoors.

Can you use a sling for the daytime?

It gets easier after 3 months when they go into a deeper sleep at first so it's easier to put them down.

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