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Reasonable action from parents or pfb territory?

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Earlybird · 18/04/2011 15:27

I attended an open house gathering yesterday for Sunday brunch.

Food on offer:
Ham
French Toast and sausage
Crab cakes
Pork Loin
Deviled eggs
Fresh fruit salad
Bacon
Pancakes
Coffee cake
Doughnuts
Vegetable tray with dip
Asparagus wrapped in parma ham
Salad
Bread rolls

People attended with their children. One family left the party for an hour to go buy a takeaway for their 10 year old dd who wouldn't eat any of the party food.

Were they reasonable?

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WalterFlipschicks · 18/04/2011 15:29

No they were not, how rude, where did they go... mcdonalds Shock

sancerrre · 18/04/2011 15:32

Very strange indeed. Surely everyone can eat bread, salad, fruit at least.

fedupwithdeployment · 18/04/2011 15:35

We went on a rare trip to Mc D's yesterday and I have felt awful ever since. Wish I'd been at the open house instead. And my DSs (4 and 6) would have been told to eat something.

reallytired · 18/04/2011 15:36

The child is a spoilt brat. end of.

Being pfb is nothing to do with it.

There was plent of choice of food.

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Earlybird · 18/04/2011 16:19

Interesting responses. I think the parents should have not pandered so much also, but then they would probably view me as a 'meanie'.

Fwiw - the child is painfully thin, so i think the parents do whatever they can to ensure she eats.......even if it means leaving a party with plenty of delicious food.

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Goblinchild · 18/04/2011 16:21

Drip feed. Angry
If she has eating issues that's a different matter.

overmydeadbody · 18/04/2011 16:38

So what kind of takeaway did they go and buy her?

I think there was plenty of food on offer, if my child didn't want any of it, even if they were painfully thin, I would stay until I was ready to go, eating all the nice food on offer, and then get the child something to eat later, once we had left.

mollymole · 18/04/2011 16:40

they are rude and ill mannered

tallulah · 18/04/2011 16:42

Well there wouldn't have been much of that we could eat, as most of it is meaty. Perhaps they are vegetarian? Not much fun being stuck with just bread rolls and vegetable dips when everyone else is having more substantial food.

RunsWithScissors · 18/04/2011 16:44

If she's that picky I can't help but wonder why they didn't feed her before showing up. Feel bad for the hosts, who probably (but should not have) felt they didn't cater well enough if they left to feed her.

FlamingJamie · 18/04/2011 16:46

My DS1 is picky but no way I'd do that. As others have said, I 'd feed before, or he'd eat at least the bread.

stillstanding · 18/04/2011 16:57

I like to think I would do what overmydeadbody said because this is appalling but I fear that if my children had eating issues I might be on rockier territory ...

But this does sound strange ... a takeaway? More of a treat and rewarding bad behaviour, no? If my child was a particularly fussy eater I guess I would bring a lunchbox with me. That might be perceived as rude too but I personally wouldn't take offence. Or at least a lot less than them buggering off after an hour.

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Earlybird · 18/04/2011 17:01

Parents are organic-organic-organic all the way. Will only shop in one supermarket because it is the only place that has the top quality they want.

I believe they took the child to get a hamburger - but from a proper restaurant, not fast food.

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sancerrre · 18/04/2011 18:44

If I were them I would offer to contribute a dish (of something the DC will eat).

mollymole · 18/04/2011 20:28

only organic - and they can guarantee that the bought hamburger was all organic ???
they still seem bloody rude to me

Chundle · 18/04/2011 21:16

That's awful how bloody rude! My dd1 is 6 and she would've chomped down the crabcakes then made a start on the asparagus :) BUT I still love a Mcd's as a treat! By the way what does PFB mean? Is it pretty fucking boring?

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Earlybird · 19/04/2011 02:04

PFB is mumsnet-speak for 'precious first born'.

I thought it was ludicrous too, but these parents obviously support the child's eating quirks/preferences to the point of leaving a party with a table full of delicious food to go in search of something else!

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Rillyrillygoodlooking · 19/04/2011 06:24

if they thought she would have had trouble choosing something then either they could have brought a packed lunch with them, or fed her before?

mumblechum1 · 19/04/2011 06:40

Rod.

Back.

goingroundthebend4 · 19/04/2011 06:43

Sounds odd but saying that at that kindoffood ds2 would have to brought own dinner with him he is painfully thin but unless you know us very well people are unliley to know that he can not eat wheat,dairy,soya oranges or anything that's been near it

so he has been accused of being fussy and akward without others knowing .I don't make fuss as he is not comfortable with everyone knowing his bowel habits

BeeMyBaby · 19/04/2011 07:03

Maybe they were religious in some way? If my DD went there she would only be able to really eat the pudding for DH's fear that the pork/ham bonanza touched anything.

pallymama · 19/04/2011 07:19

When I first read your post I thought you said 10 month old, and I ummed and erred. Then I realised you said 10 YEARS! Shock Very rude of them. I agree with everyone else who said they should have brought something with them if their child was so fussy. I always take food with us for DD, just in case, but she would have devoured most of that spread and she's 17 months!

exoticfruits · 19/04/2011 07:29

It is a problem of their own creating. If they had said 'tough' he would have sulked or eaten something. He wouldn't have starved!
However there isn't anything to be done-except think them incredibly rude-and in my case-probably not invite them again.

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