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HELP please - my 3 year olds behavour is getting me down

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rosarose · 16/04/2011 21:18

Up until my child turned 2 he was the perfect child and all my friends could not belive how good he was. He had a routine and slept at the right times, eat very well all sorts of foods and was very gental natured.
I started to notice behavour changes from 2
He was no longer happy to play by himself and wanted anyone who was at hand to play with him Then became more and more demanding. Bossing everyone around - for example what ever car you picked he would say "NO not that car, u have this car" or "NO don't stand there stand here" or "NO i go first" this was getting worse and worse with more demands and unless he got his way he would go into a screaming fit or hit or throw himself to the floor.
I understand all 2-3 have tantums but this is all the time. Now happens at the smallest of things like this morning he didn't get his breakfast ceral on the spoon quite right so it driped on him so he threw the whole bowl. Later today he couldn't get his fish on the fork how he wanted so threw his knife and fork - how could we ever eat out. He seems very OCD's he likes things to be just right or he goes crazy. He watched Tennis on tv and then got really cross with himself because he couldn't do it the same as them on tv. I thold him it doesn't matter just hit the ball anyway but NO he has to do it right. He knows if something is not right and u can't tell him otherwise. He will Lash out in a split scecond when he is frustrated - which is over most things.
He can talk very well for his age so i know he can comunicate well and ive tried all behavour tips. Naughty step, time out, sicker charts, rewarding, ignoring - im always calm and in control but latley this is really testing me.
I don't think Screaming at me in public, hitting other children and me and throwing food is acceptable
But i just duno what to do
PLEASE ADVICE

is it normal that he should get so frustrated over everything?

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rosarose · 16/04/2011 21:21

He also hates large groups of children - and wont go and play at soft play centers or on a bouncy castle or god forbid a child acsidently bumping him (not even hard) he will go into a massive screaming fit like the child just try to kill him.

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Pigleychez · 16/04/2011 21:37

Read the 3yr old support thread abit further down. You are not alone :)

petisa · 16/04/2011 22:41

second the support thread. your story is oh so familiar Grin

petisa · 16/04/2011 22:44

oh god yes my dd1 is like that if another child so much breathes in her general direction. and she kind of barks at them all "AH!" she used to say hello to other boys and girls and loved holding hands with her friends...

ousel · 16/04/2011 23:02

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