Only doing poos at home/not school?

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DS is just over 4 and will be starting school in September.

I have just started to worry/ think about the fact that he will only do poos at home.

Today we were out all day and he was really hyper. I thought it was to do with him not going to the toilet, but whenever I asked/nagged him he would go and just do a wee.

As soon as we were on the way home he was all of a sudden desperate to do a poo and did so once in the house.

Its just made me think - if he's at school all day he'll need to go after lunch and if he can't go anywhere but at home - his behaviour will be awful for the whole afternoon.

Are there any strategies to get kids to poo outside of their own home - if they can't/ are resistant to it?

IME his toilet routine will adjust so that he is okay not needing to go while at school. Otherwise he will eventually relax especially when a bit older and go when necessary. FWIW even as an adult it's difficult to go outside the home isn't it?!

TBH, I'm not sure if this is really an issue, none of my 3 poo at school unless they really REALLY have to.

They all prefer to do it at home.

All you can do is make sure he is comfortable asking staff if he needs to go, and that he is confident sorting himself out if he does.

One thing to watch out for though is constipation, DD suffers with it, and I sometimes wonder if it's worse because she prefers to go at home. Although both the boys are fine.

He may well just change his body clock and start to poo in the morning before school or (more likely ime) when he comes home

I would just make sure you leave enough spare time in the morning (as you are going out the door and two minutes will mean you are late for school is not a good time!)

And, to be fair, I wouldn't want to poo in a school toilet!
His body will adjust as long as he has time at home.

I would relax about it- don't create an issue where there isn't really one.

They are quite good at getting themselves into routines where they don't need to poo at school and I'm sure if they really needed to they would. Bit like us really (!)

My son can get in a foul mood when he needs a no. 2 even when at home, but I've stopped asking him as I want him to learn to regulate his own body (and mood hopefully!!!). He's 4.5 so similar age. He does 2 full days at nursery and I presume has occassionally had a no. 2 at school- leave this up to him tho.

And yes, I'd be surprised if pooing isn't a top conversation amongst 4/5/6 year old boys

I think a lot of adults prefer to poo at home than out and about!!

My DS had a year at playgroup, a year at nursery and nearly a year at school and has never done a poo at any if them.
He just wouldn't ever, don't blame him really.

Yes - you all are right. I know that I and adults are the same.

The only reason I was worrying is that DS's body seems to really want to poo after he's had lunch and then when he can't, because we're out, he just becomes crazy and hyper and all over the place.

I don't become like this when I need to go. I could get on with work for example without tripping over things and shouting at people.

However, like you say, he'll hopefully learn to adapt.

Thank you.

ds is 13 and has never had a poo in school

he is a gorgeous and well adjusted individual

My dd1 won't poo anywhere apart from at home.

What's worse is she won't do a wee anywhere other than at home unless she really really really has to

The dash to the toilet as soon as I pull the car on the drive has to be seen to be believed!

The poo thing doesn't bother me tbh and if I'm honest I have to say that I'm pretty much the same myself.

I wouldn't worry too much. Chances are he won't need to go at school.