boy broke ds glasses for 2nd time already (yr1), plus numerous hits, kicks etc. meeting teacher tomorrow. WWYD?

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This boy is 'difficult' he is very aggressive and doesn't seem to have any self control. He is being seen by doctors to try and work out what's wrong. He is behaviour is challenging, and I know the teacher finds him very difficult.

He seems to hit all the kids, my ds being his favourite target. Irrespective of any problems, I think I should be able to send my ds to school without worrying about him being hurt. So far he has damaged his glasses (reparable) a couple of times and bust them (needing new frames) now twice, as well as almost daily hitting, he still has a mark on his chest (breast bone height) where he kicked him a couple of weeks ago.

Previous times I have spoken to the teacher she just says she will note it and add it to the list of previous, to go with the reports of whatever it is they're looking for.

But I want something done. Some actual consequence.

WWYD?

This is not acceptable, for your child or the aggressive child. The school has a duty of care to protect your child from harm. Google Safeguarding policies and make an appointment with the head teacher. State your concerns and ask what they intend to do to ensure your child's safety whilst in their care.

What the teacher has said is just not good enough is it? And of course your son should be able to go to school without being scared.
Hope you get some action taken, some guarantees that this will stop. You may need to consider going over the teacher's head.
Good luck.

Bevause i am totslly over the top and my childrens safety is my priority, i would tell the school you want that boy removed, and if they are not prepared to do that remove your son until they take some action.

Im sure other people on here would be more forgiving but i tend to go down the all guns blazing route

I help out in his class every week, so I see him in action and have accompanied a couple of school trips. Kid is a nightmare, but it feels more difficult to complain because I am on more friendly terms with the teacher, who is nice but useless.

Thing is, this boy is clever, he isn't stupid, and from what I've witnessed since September, he has a clear and successful strategy of being loud with shouty, pulling away and v difficult then all the adults give up, back off, shrug and say he's so difficult, we can't do anything with him. Meanwhile he gets exactly what he wants and skips off to play with a smile. He knows the game and plays it well, and all the adults seem to play it unwittingly and he gets his own way every time.

It's all empty words but nothing gets done.

When I've complained to the school in the past they just say they can't do anything. Or occasionally turn it round and say my son should have stayed away from him.

He pushed him in the pond once, and my ds was blamed cos he shouldn't have been near it.

All this since starting school in September.

Ask to see a copy of the school's bullying policy. If the school is not prepared to protect your son, then take it to the governors. If no joy there, then directly to the LEA. Your son has a right to feel safe.

Suggest to school that as they can't keep your DS safe, the other child be sent home at lunchtimes for parental supervision. It gives everyone a break. It's not excluding, it's just saying if you can't play nicely you don't get to play.

Change school to protect your child and to ensure that your child is not put off learning.

Go and see the HT pronto.
Does he attack other children as well? This is absolutely not acceptable and if you don't get any satisfaction from the Head (at the very least, he needs a TA with him to intervene in the aggression) then escalate to Chair of Govs straight away.
Doesn't matter that you help out, the children have a right to be safe.