2hrs old hitting mummy and daddy

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Our lovely 2yrs old dd has recently started to hit me and dh across the face. I can't understand why she has started doing this and am worried about her doing it to another child. She is not at nursery so could not have learnt it from there.

We have used the naughty step but now she has started to think this is a game and there is no hint of remorse or feeling as though she has done something wrong when she is put there. She just sings to herself.

Has nayone got any ieas about what to do in a situation like this. We are getting rather frustrated.

oops I meantbad typing

Has anyone got any ideas about what to do in a situation like this. We are getting rather frustrated.

say no firmly every time and instantly
put her down and turn your back (naughty step is fine) .. ignore her for 2 minutes
do not pretend to cry, do not make any noise .. just withdraw your attention consistently

of course there's no remorse she's 2 .. she has no empathy (nor should she have) .. she just thinks its a game

I was quite stunned at thought of a 2 hour old baby being able to hit you though

ds does this. has done for a long while. he's 2. i haven't done anything about this yet but i fully agree with twiglett. that seems the only method i've heard of.

my ds started doing this so we use time out and a reward chart. He actually started kicking my stomach when we began explaining about the baby in it[due next month]. He was 2 beginning of oct and understands the reward system quite well. I also firmly hold his hands and tell him we dont hit then i tell him he is going in time out because he hit. At first he used to think it was a game and take great amusement in running from the step until one day I really shouted at him. He has not moved off it since. Then when time is up he has to come and apologise with a hug kiss and say sorry and i tell him he was in time out because of xxx.

DD has always been put in her room for hitting (we have a stairgate on her door, and we shut her behind that) - it has always been sort of, the more serious version of the stairs. It seems to work....

DD had started to do this and I have seen other children do it and each time it's been ether out of frustration or because they're very very giddy.

I've found that distracting dd when I know theres a tantrum coming, to work very well.
If she does hit me then I do exactly what Twig has just said.

Is she just two or nearer three? I think mst children go through a phase of this and it's a 'cause and effect' game - they are wondering what will happen if.....? I think it sometimes makes it worse if you make a big deal of it eg by putting them on a step.

I would say firmly 'no hitting, that hurts mummy' and withdraw from her saying what you are doing - eg 'you can't sit on my knee/ have this story if you're going to do that'.Give her no attention at all when she hits and she will soon stop it.

thats what we have been doing but perhaps not instantly have been telling her 'no, I don't like that' first, then to the naughty step.
perhaps remorse was to strong a word, but she seems not to care that she is in trouble.

Nemo, dd was 2 start of October as well(5th) so perhaps if it continues I might think about that.

my dd has just turned 3 and she does this to her baby sister

she walks up to dd2 and hits her on the top of her head, stands back to see if she will cry then sheepishly looks at me waiting for my reaction

its definitely attentionseeking cause and effect in this case

i use the naughty step but she just jumps off it and runs away as soon as i turn my back

have you seen the tip of the day on the home page? i love the idea of the egg timer - im going to give it to dd and tell her to sit there til the sand has run through

best of luck x

just seen that nailpolish, don't have any problem with her sitting there, only that she sings ad chats away to herself as happy as anything. Does not seem to bother her at all.

sometimes she has even pretended to put herself there when playing.

hi

yes it does seem a game sometimes

my dd will know im about to put her on the step and run and sit there herself, laughing

what i try and do is then play loudly with dd2, making sure dd1 knows she is missing out on something, she will stand and watch or come over and try to join in, i just have to keep putting her back there, turning my back

when you put her on the step give her the egg timer (have you got one?) and then go and do something REALLY interesting, making sure she knows the punishment is not the step, but missing out on playing or whatever

its so bloomin' frustrating isnt it?!

hopefully it will blow over for you