Please help!!

[Becs82]

I have an 8 month old happy, bubbly baby girl. She is crawling, eating well and generally very well behaved...1 problem- she still wakes up every night to eat! she goes down easily enough day and night, we have tried to leave her to cry, that can go on for 2 hours and we then give in in the end- we know the neighbours can hear and they have let us know, even to the extent of telling us exactly what time she was up. She is eating more or less the proper amount of formula and food during the day and at night the times can vary of when she wakes...any ideas? please i really am at breaking point!

Are you feeding her formula when she wakes? Maybe giving her water will break the habit and also ensure that her full nutritional needs are being met throughout the day.

Firstly ignore the neighbours, babies cry and there is nothing that can be done and going in to her because you are worried about the neighbours will only prolong the problem. (I say that in a totally sympathetic way, i hate the idea that our neighbours can be disturbed by DS, but he's a baby)
If your DD is a healthy weight and is eating and drinking plenty during the day then she has probably formed a habit of waking for a feed. DON'T GIVE IT TO HER. That sounds harsh but its the only way to break the pattern.
We did this with our DS when he was 7 months. We picked a week when we were both around, and we decided that this was the week we would start to stop the night feeds. The first night DS started crying and we went in, tried to comfort him while still in his cot but in the end gave in and carried him around for about 3 hours, and then he settled back to sleep and slept through til morning. Second night he woke, again we couldn't get him back to sleep in the cot so i took him downstairs and cuddled him while he bellowed for about 2 and a half hours. Seriously it does take a lot of energy and resolve but its worth it because on day 3 when he woke up we just didn't go in, and after half an hour he went back to sleep and slept through til morning. If you are brave enough, just turn off the baby monitor on day three, you'll hear her bellowing anyway but it doesn't help when its magnified by the monitor.
The first two nights were hell on earth and you really feel like it will never work but if you stick with it and do not give in it will pay off and she will sleep through. DS has slept through the night ever since (except occasionally when he's been ill).
Jus make sure you pick a week when you and DP don't have anything too important on cos you'll probably feel like zombies. If you can talk to the neighbours it might be worth warning them that you are going to try this technique so they can move their bed away from the wall or something.