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Just gone cold turkey with the dummy... Come hold my hand please....

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CharlieBoo · 12/04/2011 13:23

Dd will be 2 next month and We have decided to go cold turkey on the dummy starting today... She would just have it in her mouth constantly and I have tried limiting it's use which is just not working... She's bad tempered when I don't let her have it, temper tantrums so have decided to take it away for good. It's also giving her a very sore mouthfrom all the dribble..

I know there will be plenty of you who've been here before so just hoping for some stay string tips or boost to my will power... Thanks Cboo

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jubilee10 · 12/04/2011 13:31

We have gone cold turkey three times now and had far fewer problems than we had imagined. Ds2 would have needed his surgically removed had we left it any longer. A few tears at bedtine and all was well! Be strong, I am holding your hand.

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CharlieBoo · 12/04/2011 13:47

Thankyou Jubilee10! She has been awake since 6.30am and it's not been too bad. We went to the shops this morning as needed new shoes for both of the kids and on the way home she cried and cried for it but eventually drifted off to sleep in the car without it. Tonight will be interesting lol! I need to do it for her own good now. Ds just spat his out at12 months and that was it! N such luck with dd! She Would still have it in at 12 I think!

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addictedtofrazzles · 12/04/2011 13:54

I went cold turkey with DD two weeks ago (2.5). A few tears the first night and a few early starts as she didn't know how to settle herself in the morning. Also, for a week she was pretty demanding. However, now she is back to her easygoing-self with no plastic in her mouth and doesn't mention it.

Be strong and don't give in to the whinging!!! You can do it!!!!

Llanarth · 12/04/2011 14:13

If you get tempted (at 3 am in the morning after she's been screaming for 2 hours) to give in, just think about how cruel that would be - you will have put her through all that stress and upset for nothing. Realising that was the only way I got through it!

mamagaga · 12/04/2011 21:05

I put ours in the bin and didnt buy anymore so that I wasnt tempted to give into my DD, we had a couple of bad weeks but they really do get over it eventually (and DD was a dummy addict). DD will still once in a while ask for hers with a wry smile but she knows theyre gone for good and doesnt push it! Good luck its not easy but its worth it

dexifehatz · 12/04/2011 22:29

So glad I never gave any of my 3 dummies!

stabiliser15 · 13/04/2011 09:40

My stepdaughter had a dummy until she was three and I think her mum and dad finally devised a really good way to get her to give them up. They did a big "exchange" where she had to give them all the dummies to be thrown away, and then when she had collected them all (she had stashes everywhere!) and handed them over, she was given some toy she had been after for ages. It was not without a few tantrums at times, but I think that because she was involved in the process of stopping their use, and because she got something she wanted, she was willing. However, she was a year older than the OP's child, so something which worked for her might not necessarily work for a younger child, I dont know. But just an idea!

RunningOutOfIdeas · 13/04/2011 10:00

DD gave up her dummy a couple of months ago (2.10). A sticker chart worked for her. I tried it last summer without success, but the mistake I made that time was giving her a sticker in the morning if she went all night without a dummy.

This time I gave her the sticker at bedtime. Then, if she asked for a dummy, I would tell that I would have to take the sticker off her chart. The thought of losing the sticker was far worse to her than not having the dummy. So we did not have a single night with a dummy after that. I also told her that after 1 week of stickers, the dummy fairy would send her a present. She got a lovely animal dominoes set.

Occasionally during the day she would ask for a dummy, but I told her that the dummy fairy had given them to little babies so we didn't have any. She understood this and after about 2 weeks she stopped asking.

Good Luck!

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CharlieBoo · 13/04/2011 11:00

Hi ladies, thought I would update.. Dd till doing really well, went to sleep last night without it, took a lot longer but it's so much better without it. She fell over on big brothers binoculars this morning and grazed her bum and really cried and asked for it then but I just kept comforting her... I'm hoping to stay strong! Thanks for the support! X

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Flower1000 · 13/04/2011 13:51

I actually found we had less problems going cold turkey than I thought we would. It just seemed that as soon as she understood we wouldn't change our mind she accepted it and was fine.

I think we had two days of her being slightly grizzly then she was fine.

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