My DS (4.7) is in reception and I had his first parents evening this week.
He is doing really well and speaks well during carpet time. He is apparently a joy to teach. I am obviously very proud of him.
His teacher did raise some concerns about his confidence to do things alone.
When he started school he and a boy he was at pre school with stuck with each other and this seemed to help them both. DS loved school - but would only talk about this other boy.
In the last week or so his friend has gained confidence and become more popular and therefore needs my DS less.
At the same time as this happening the teacher said that DS does not join activities anymore, but will sit by himself or seek out his friend or the 2 teachers that he likes. If these people are not available then he will choose to be on his own.
He was like this at pre school too. Had one friend who he wanted and didn't want anyone else and would be lost without them.
The thing is, he is popular and gets on with kids. We have lots of friends and he plays well with them all. He is appropriate in his play.
However, these interactions don't seem to mean anything to him. He wants the one friend and whilst he has fun with others he would deny playing with them if I asked.
His teacher said they would be more firm with him to join in activities and that when doing small group work they will not put DS with his friend so that he can try and form friendships with others.
I just want to try and help him. For him to see how he is liked by lots of people and that he doesn't need the one on one attention from others to engage in something.
I don't know if I am making sense or not.
I am similar to him and feel more confident in social settings with someone else with me and feel I don't know my place in big groups.
I want to give him the tools to enable him to get his sense of self and self worth from within and not from other people.
God this is long. Sorry 