help with 6yo

[kasdie]

hi kasdie here can anybody help my 6 year dd has started being really naughty every time itell her not to do something she will answer back rudly or keep whinging its realy getting bad if i send her to her room she dont care

My 6 year old is mostly good but does go through phases of being rude or answering back. I send her to her room and it works for her. I tell her she can't come out until she is ready to say sorry and can tell me what for.

Maybe you need to think of another way of punishing your DD. Does she have a favourite toy or book? Might be more effective if you take that away for a period of time.

Oh the joys of 6 year old girls!

I use the naughty corner, works for us.

Also we have just started to give her pocket money, £1 a week on a Friday. We have a rule that if she's naughty she gets a warning, then a "strike" (no, I don't hit her!!!) - three strikes = no pocket money that week.

Course she still has her moments, but it mostly works.

she has not got a fav toy but she likes playing with the boy next door so i think i stop that for a day

losing sweets or tv for the rest of the day or the next day makes an impression on them

i dont no if she needs more attention had a baby 11 weeks ago but she hasnt been jeolous at and she hasnt been left out i think she nows when baby cry or whines the baby gets attention that she has started whinging aswell it winds me up as she carries it on for ages

Hi kasdee, have you considered the possibility that she isn't actually being much worse than usual, but that your tether might be a lot shorter than usual because of sleep deprivation? I know that if I am tired I don't handle things very well, and situations with my two (5 and 6) can escalate very fast from nowhere. Having said that I think that that age is quite inclined to both rudeness and whinging - and doesn't a good sustained whine just drive you around the bend? Have you tried some positive reinforcement to the punishments? It may be that this is how she is letting you know she wants attention (aren't kids supposed to regress with new babies on the scene?). So something like pocket money or priveledges that can be withheld could be a good way forward (we are just about to start on the pocket money approach).

thanks she only does it when dads not there and after she does say sorry and she does say please dont tell daddy i do tell him other wise she thinks she can do naut thing then say sorry and everything will be ok