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My 14 month old is like an 8-9 month old

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Firsttimer7259 · 01/04/2011 22:45

Developmentally. She doesnt crawl yet, is starting to get about a bit by rolling shuffling but limited. Doesnt point, wave or clap. She got into objects late and mouths thems mainly. She can feed herself a little bit but very hit and miss. She often doesnt respond to her name.
She does play peekaboo (since about 9 months) can sit unaided, bears weight on legs (but doesnt try to pull up). She smiles and giggles, loves physical play. Shes into musical toys. Shes affectionate. Seems to listen but maybe not: she doesnt roll a ball with me, or pass something back and forward. She doesnt follow instructions.

Has just started a little babbling (we are a multi language household so you'd expect a delay there).

Shes being tested to figure out what might be causing this developmental delay. The pead said it was a 'confusing' mix of skills.

But while we wait does anyone have any encouraging expirences ?

Please dont tell me of all the other stuff, Ive googled.

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TallyB · 01/04/2011 22:49

My DS was very similar, but he was prem, so probably not a good comparison.

Sorry I can't be more help, I mostly posted to bump this up, hopefully someone more knowledgeable will have some input.

smallwhitecat · 01/04/2011 22:56

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Firsttimer7259 · 02/04/2011 00:08

OK had a good cry and am changing request for positives only into tell me your experience. Thanks smallwhitecat for posting.

Im worried and in a way the not crawling has masked a lot of the other things she's not doing that Im becoming aware of once I get a checklist and try to figure out what she can and cant do yet in terms of her understanding. Shes so lovely, I am scared i am going to lose that.

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hellymelly · 02/04/2011 00:15

Whatever is going on,or not,she is still lovely,and will always be lovely,nothing can change that,she's still your gorgeous little girl.

crw1234 · 02/04/2011 10:37

Hi - had quite a few friends whose children - especially daughter were late crawlers etc - and at 5 just fine -bright happy at school etc, there was one girl who did have a develpomental delay - but that was for a reason they knew about -and was epected - and even she - with support is doing really well - at you are doing everything you can - odd on she will catch up

TallyB · 02/04/2011 18:54

"Shes so lovely, I am scared i am going to lose that"

Aaw, you poor thing, you sound worried sick. I really feel for you, worrying about your child's health is about as horrendous as it gets. I'm not going to tell you not to worry - you're a mum, that's not possible - but reread CRW's post. S/he is right! There is a wide range of normal in child development. Some babies do it by the text book, others prefer a more individual route, but the vast, overwhelming majority arrive at the same place in the end.

Obviously, I'm just some person on MN, but looking back at your OP, your DD has a range of abilities, both physical and intellectual. Thinking about when my DS was in the same position, that was considered a good thing; he was progressing, just not in a conventional way.

TallyB · 02/04/2011 19:03

PS: Stop Googling, seriously! The results you get when Googling health problems could turn an SAS man into a wreck. I've lost count of the number of times I've googlediagnosed loved ones with all sorts of horrific things.

capecath · 02/04/2011 21:01

Hey, I only walked at 18 months and I turned out ok! Maybe she'll skip out the crawling and go straight to walking? I've heard of babies doing that, and it can all happen quite suddenly....

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Firsttimer7259 · 03/04/2011 09:26

Thanks for the messages. I will stop googling, or at least try. It does feel like I am losing her in the sense that now I am looking at her and realising what she cant do or that things that I had assumed were reactions or responses may not be. So shes not really communicating with me like I thought she had been. Im not saying she wont be lovely, just that she may not grow up in the way other little girls do. So i am losing her future.

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CardyMow · 03/04/2011 09:42

DS2 was VERY late with all his milestones - He didn't hold his head up until 9 months old, didn't roll over until 15 months, didn't crawl until 20 months old, didn't take his first steps until 3yrs6months. He said his first word (mum) at 3yrs1month. He was diagnosed with autism at 4yrs old.

He had physiotherapy, Occupational therapy, Speech and language therapy and was under a child development team.

When he started reception in a mainstream school (on school action plus), he was starting 'on a trial' as the headteacher thought a 'special school' would be a more appropriate placement for him. He was taken down to 'school action' at the end of Yr1.

Fast forward to age 7yrs4months - He can now walk, talk the hind legs off a donkey, run, hop, ride a bike with stabilisers, he just has issues with friendships and social skills he has NO tact. He has in the last 3 months been discharged from physio, OT and just this week, from the child development paediatrician. Also as of last week when he was tested again, he has caught up with his peer group academically as well, he is getting level 2b halfway through yr2.

OK so he has autism, which makes some aspects of life more, erm... interesting, but he wouldn't be MY ds2 without them tbh. He constantly chatters now, although his 'syntax' is a little...off. He runs around all the time, enjoys life to the full, and is currently sitting reading his world book day book.

Being slow to get started does not mean that they will never be the child you thought they would be - it just means that they need a little more input to get to where they should be.

HTH.

Rillyrillygoodlooking · 03/04/2011 09:46

Oh dear, I know exactly how you feel. I worried about DS from the moment he was born. He bum shuffled, and started relatively late doing that. He walked 5 days before was 2.
We had/have to monitor him following the monitoring protocol which list what children do and approximately when they do it. At the beginning I used to cry every time we did it. He is catching up with things, but is still a bit behind (he is 3.5). There is an ongoing "wait and see" approach as to whether he is on the autistic spectrum.
We got given the protocol because DS is hard of hearing. Have you had your DD's hearing tested?
I have found it very difficult to accept DS for how he is, as he also didn't/doesn't communicate the way I thought he would. But I keep telling myself that he is lovely, he has his own skills and that he is his own person. And, thats because he is lovely!
It is hard to see through the worry and enjoy the good bits, I wasted a lot of time doing that, but its hard not to worry so much.

Youngmum7 · 03/04/2011 18:55

This sounds like my partners 4yr old daughter's situation, she developed in a very similar way and doctors always said it was a 'strange, unusual case', eventually she was tested for Rett's syndrome which came back as positive and after a very dark 6 months for everyone adjusting and coming to terms with it but she is now a bright and cheery little girl and has progressed so much since doctors diagnosed her and she was assigned physiotherapists etc to help her, and her smile always cheers everyone up, good luck with everything xx

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hazeyjane · 03/04/2011 19:57

Firsttimer, I have been trying to stay off mumsnet for a while, but sneaked back in, saw this thread, and had to post.

Our ds (9 months) is currently under investigation for developmental delay, he has 4 appointments coming up (physio/OT, medical assessment, developmental assessment and dietician). It has been such a worrying time, and horrible as I seem to be constantly watching him, rather than actively enjoying him (IYKWIM).

I have no words of advice or encouragement, I'm afraid, but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone, and wish you luck in the coming months.

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Firsttimer7259 · 03/04/2011 23:07

Thanks for all your responses and good wishes. I must stop googling, I just googled Retts syndrome and am in tears. I don't know how we will make it through a month of waiting for results.

I keep looking at her and thinking nothing has changed shes just as lovely as always and I love her so much. And then I'm so scared I just want to hide somewhere until its over. I don't even know what 'its over' means.

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TheSecondComing · 03/04/2011 23:32

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tholeon · 04/04/2011 17:05

no direct experience to add I'm afraid, just to say that she is of course your lovely girl and nothing will ever change that. And stop Googling - researching (undiagnosed) health conditions is the devil's work. Am normally quite cheery but can drive myself into a borderline depression with the help of Doc Google if I try hard enough!

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