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Advice on angry 11 yr old dd please!

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chickensaresafehere · 30/03/2011 09:25

My dd1,has recently started to be very negative about herself & life in general with comments like,'I don't want to live','everyone at school hates me','why am I so stupid'.These are usually said when she is angry,which is upto twice a day now.The slightest thing can set the anger off,from her hair not being right to her homework being stupid.

I tackled her this morning after another bout of anger & she said she only has these negative thoughts when shes angry,but she doesn't know why she gets angry.

In between this she is a normal,loving happy girl.
Is it just pre-teen hormones(as she is quite well developed for her age)or should I be more concerned?

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therealmrsbeckham · 30/03/2011 10:53

Sounds quite normal to me. My DD is 10 (11 this year) and she's either a happy, loving girl who's great fun to be with or she's so angry she wants to fight the world!

I think that this is such a difficult age with all the hormonal changes that are taking place and those bloody complicated friend relationships which are a daily topic of conversation in our house

I think (i'm hoping) that the key to helping DC through this phase of life is to keep communicating and let them know that they can can talk about anthing and get honest answers and support - i'll let you know if this has worked when she's 13

Stricnine · 30/03/2011 13:34

Agree with MrsBeckam .. my DD is now 14 so we've kind of been though all this ... certainly at 11 she could be terribly 'up and down'.. I found just being sypathetic to the mood swings was best and explaining that even mum got a bit negative at the wrong time of the month (understatement of the year!)... and generally helped her see it wasn't her fault if you see what I mean..

She's now fully aware of PMT and all that :)

jellybelly25 · 30/03/2011 16:24

Same here. Can't offer much advice other than don't get into too many arguments like I do

olijackmum · 31/03/2011 11:39

my dd is 11 and we are having a nightmare she thinks everyone is against her and I cant do anything right. She is worse with me than her dad.
I keep trying to say its due to her hormones but its heartbreaking , as I try to walk away when she gets like this but I end up getting upset with her.

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