4 year old friendships

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I've been on about this before. Sorry.

But my 4 yr old DS baffles me with the way he is in friendships sometimes. He seems to get a kick out of being provocative in some of his friendships - like teasing his friends or purposefully not sharing - so that friends can be upset and some even chose to no longer play with him.

He doesn't seem at all upset that he has lost - def one friend due to teasing - and just tells me that he'll be friend with 'so and so' etc instead.

I am trying to guide him/talk with him etc about it all - but don't feel I'm really getting anywhere as a lot of stuff happens at nursery so I don't get to see first hand (just hear through friend's mother and nursery staff etc) and also my son is not keen on talking about any of it.

Just wondered if any of you had been through anything similar.

My DS has a friend who does this and it really upsets him. Have you tried asking you son what he imagines his friends fell like when this happens. Maybe try some simple roleplay with him with him or act out similar scenarios with his toys.

Yes, I have asked DS what he imagines it would feel like and he replies 'sad', or 'unhappy' etc but I don't feel that he's really imagining what that 'sad' actually feels like - if that makes sense. He is not that emotional.

I've done some roleplay with toys - perhaps should try some more though.