stroppy kid :s

[justherenow]

first of, hi ev1, im new here and dont no if this is the right place to post or not.
am a single dad and my problem is my 11 yr girl, shes been taking big strops lately, shes no went through the change yet (thats another worry lol) i ask her to do something for me like tidy her room and she never does it so i ban her from the internet until she does it, that sends her of on one.
or if she asks to go uptown with her friends and ill say no, thats another one, maybe im being over protective with her, oh and shes got her 1st bf :(

if this is in the wrong place could some1 move it please and thx in advance for any advice

Sounds like your average 11 year old to me. What was it u wanted to know?

oh sorry, forgot to say lol, what do i do to stop her taking these strops or do i just need to put up with them, im no very clued up on girls at that age

I think you need to strike some kind of balance. Pick your battles as they say. How important is it that her room is tidy to your standards? I try to be very firm on the important issues (=the ones that are really important to me) and quite laidback on others. Also, I find it helps when they get to this age if you talk to them more like you would talk to an adult, so not so much commands as reasoning ("I think it would be a good idea to get your room tidy now, so you can enjoy X later). And I use punishments quite sparingly, so they really feel them when they get them.

But the most helpful thing I find is having good communication when things are not going wrong, making sure we spend lots of time just talking, having a good time together.