Toddler tantrums - am I the only one?

[Socci]

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Hi my DD is 23months and is EXACTALLY the same she bites herself if she doesn't get her own way. She smacks her legs and tells her self off and also bangs her head on the door. Ive been told ots just a phase heres hoping for both our sakes it is.

MY 21 month DS is just starting he doesnt head bang allough i know others who do. He gets set of all of a sudden goes bright red, produces this blood curdling scream amd refuses o be picked up, they dissapate quickly at home as i can just put him in his room and ignore him put it is a real pain when out and about as he seems to play for audience

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my ds is just starting this...(21 months) and the worry is that whe it happens he looks for someone to hit or somethging to destroy ...so I have to be extra quick at rescuing his 9 week old bro!!

I hope it doesn't last too long.....

the problem with him though is that he is also not walking yet.

socci....I try everything he might want..suggest books, cuddles, toys food until i find something he does wnat....he usually shuts up instantly...often i never know what started it. Mostly he does it for attention.

Boy am I going through this! A cage is a good idea for these phases! You just gotta breathe in and out, count to 10, etc. Personally I think there should be vaccines for this.

I used to have some cracking humdingers with dd - and out in front of a not very adoring public too. She's 3.3 now and I would say she has improved radically since last February (I remember the trantrums then - we were on holiday at that time)...she was 2.7 in Feb after which we we turned the corner...

Re: the headbanging. I saw a very interesting episode of the Baby Whisperer a while back featuring a toddler that threw the most amazing tantrums combined with serious headbanging on the floor or on the bars of the cot. Tracy Hogg had a brilliant suggestion of using a beanbag (kept specifically for this purpose alone) as his tantrum spot. As soon as he started to scream and shout, she placed him on the beanbag where he could scream it out and bang his head without putting himself in danger. She sat beside him with her hand firmly but gently on his back to keep him on there until he had calmed down. Obviously, she did not engage in any conversation or eye contact while he was doing this. Took some perseverance from the parents, but it really seemed to work - a bit like a naughty step only one that would stop him doing any damage when headbanging. It got to the point where if he started to act up, even bringing out the beanbag would make him think twice and calm down. I remember thinking what a calm, gentle but effective approach it was to a problem that must be awful for a parent to see (probably why they do it in the first place!)

my ds is 13 months and has in the last two weeks started having what i can only call tantrums. when we have to leave the swings, or if i have to take an instrument from him in music class, or if he is just plain grumpy, he has started hitting his face and screaming blue murder. Its come on so suddenly. He does seem to calm down if i ignore it or if i just talk calmly to him tho. I don't know if its going to last!

Hi Ruty, i know exactly how u feel. I hav a daughter whos 14 months, she does exactly the same. I cant stand it when we have to leave the park and shes hitting her head i just try my best to take her mind off what it is shes upset about.Any other ideas...id love to hear em!!!

Basically you have to learn to live with it until they are older and grow out of it - that's about it I'm afraid! No magic remedies unfortunately....

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my little boy is 18months and if i tell him NO he
throws something or hits something or someone out of fustration and stamps his feet, starting using the naughty rug for tamtrums... little devil at times

ds2 has ALWAYS had a temper, at 18 months he's really going for it. He's very sweet looking so people get a shock when he throws a wobbly!

so today we had to let another little girl have a go on the swing - ds grips his legs onto the swing, arches his back and screams as i try to pull him out. He'd been on it half an hour. I get him out and he won't play on anything else, won't stand on the ground, screams blue murder. I try ot put him in the push chair, he stands in it and flips himself backwards, sending the buggy over and hitting his head on the ground. He seems ok thank god but i don't want to go to the park anymore! Don't know what to do. Sorry, probably hijacking now.

like your boy sickand tired he is so happy go lucky the rest of the time it is such a shock when he loses it.

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he's only 13 months socci! He is a very happy smiley extrovert child usually, always runs up to children and beams at them, but he is very 'assertive' as my dad says! But the park is really getting to be a nightmare. As are music classes when we have to give an instrument back. I feel very embarrassed when it happens, and also it so difficult because it ruins whatever activity we are doing.

BTW socci the only way i get him to eat properly is to let him watch cbeebies during mealtimes.
Not a very good habit to get into i know.